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I don't fall in love easily but it happened anyway although I've found it's best to leave the pace of things up to her, my own pace being so awkwardly slow. As a result things are going nowhere although I know we enjoy one another's company & a good party among friends. How does an impossible geek stick around a mischievous raver lady?
Those types of women are usually good for gaining experience, getting you out of your comfort zone, and helping you loosen up a little bit, but I'm not too sure about long term relationships with them, though.
I don't fall in love easily but it happened anyway although I've found it's best to leave the pace of things up to her, my own pace being so awkwardly slow. As a result things are going nowhere although I know we enjoy one another's company & a good party among friends. How does an impossible geek stick around a mischievous raver lady?
Those types of women are usually good for gaining experience, getting you out of your comfort zone, and helping you loosen up a little bit, but I'm not too sure about long term relationships with them, though.
Would you say this applies more to women than men? I have a friend who is a mischievous raver man and he's very much interested in long-lasting love. Doesn't mean he won't have fun in the meantime of course. I don't know many ravers so I don't have much data to go on.
Feel like sharing? I'm intrigued
Where to begin? lol
Well, for starters...someone that is single
Basically, I am looking for someone similar to myself, yet different enough so we don't get on each other's nerves (someone that compliments me)
Someone that is well balanced mentally, with good sense, and a good head on their shoulders
Someone that is on the same wavelength
Values and lifestyles are similar
Mutual understanding
Mutual respect
Someone that is genuine
Someone that is reasonably attractive - I am not super picky about looks, but there are some physical qualities that I don't particularly like (super skinny, too tall, or overweight), but it's possible to overlook those things, if they have an awesome personality.
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I guess I shouldn't generalize. We're pretty casual about being very much on-again off-again so I guess I'm not so worried about the long term as much as finding more times to get together & at least sort of reciprocating the comfort-zone-expansion thing, which you're quite right about.
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I don't fall in love easily but it happened anyway although I've found it's best to leave the pace of things up to her, my own pace being so awkwardly slow. As a result things are going nowhere although I know we enjoy one another's company & a good party among friends. How does an impossible geek stick around a mischievous raver lady?
Those types of women are usually good for gaining experience, getting you out of your comfort zone, and helping you loosen up a little bit, but I'm not too sure about long term relationships with them, though.
Would you say this applies more to women than men? I have a friend who is a mischievous raver man and he's very much interested in long-lasting love. Doesn't mean he won't have fun in the meantime of course. I don't know many ravers so I don't have much data to go on.
I have known a few party girls, and I wouldn't really consider them LTR material for myself, but that doesn't mean they couldn't be for someone, I guess. I would assume men are probably the same way.
Feel like sharing? I'm intrigued
Where to begin? lol
Well, for starters...someone that is single
Basically, I am looking for someone similar to myself, yet different enough so we don't get on each other's nerves (someone that compliments me)
Someone that is well balanced mentally, with good sense, and a good head on their shoulders
Someone that is on the same wavelength
Values and lifestyles are similar
Mutual understanding
Mutual respect
Someone that is genuine
Someone that is reasonably attractive - I am not super picky about looks, but there are some physical qualities that I don't particularly like (super skinny, too tall, or overweight), but it's possible to overlook those things, if they have an awesome personality.
The wavelength thing...argh...so hard to find, do you agree? And so important for us weirdos.
Another personal question if I may be so bold...are you gifted? And if so, do you know which level?
If you're not familiar with giftedness:
What is Giftedness?
High, Exceptional & Profound Giftedness
Happy for mods to rename and sticky this thread if they think it's suitable, or start up a new one with that intent.
Feel like sharing? I'm intrigued
Where to begin? lol
Well, for starters...someone that is single
Basically, I am looking for someone similar to myself, yet different enough so we don't get on each other's nerves (someone that compliments me)
Someone that is well balanced mentally, with good sense, and a good head on their shoulders
Someone that is on the same wavelength
Values and lifestyles are similar
Mutual understanding
Mutual respect
Someone that is genuine
Someone that is reasonably attractive - I am not super picky about looks, but there are some physical qualities that I don't particularly like (super skinny, too tall, or overweight), but it's possible to overlook those things, if they have an awesome personality.
The wavelength thing...argh...so hard to find, do you agree? And so important for us weirdos.
Another personal question if I may be so bold...are you gifted? And if so, do you know which level?
If you're not familiar with giftedness:
What is Giftedness?
High, Exceptional & Profound Giftedness
I looked into giftedness several years ago, and I would say that I probably am, but I'm not sure what level, or anything. Might be something to look into.
I'm probably in the same '2e' bracket as OP.
Thus I'm wondering how to stop over thinking & properly appreciate good company.
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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos
Thus I'm wondering how to stop over thinking & properly appreciate good company.
How to stop overthinking? Can't help you there!! I mean, my 'solution' is often 'ethanol' (hah, sorry), but that's not always available or appropriate...
Seriously though I have used alcohol to lower my inhibitions and raise my filters, as an initial tactic to get close to someone, then once the first hurdles have been overcome, I am able to do more relaxing and appreciating. Someone else might have a more natural method for putting up filters?
By filters I mean those things that prevent some information coming into the conscious brain to be analysed and interpreted, so I'm not processing EVERYTHING. Cos that's tiring, and not productive when it comes to romance.
You have a point. I wind up as designated driver most of the time, perhaps I should stick to some beer runs in advance, good thing I'm a microbrew snob.
I'm more about green stuff to be honest though.
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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos
I'm more about green stuff to be honest though.
Deso* nights, back in my clubbing days, were always the worst for making things happen with people.
I don't have enough experience with pot to know if it is good for filtering, but I assume it's good for relaxing! Which is a lowering-of-inhibitions type thing. Maybe your girl is interested in a quiet "Netflix and 420" sometimes, which would relieve you from having to chase her around at raves? I dunno, just throwing ideas out there.
*This is probably Aussie slang, sorry, I mean designated driver
I'm still learning about it myself, but those two links above give more info. IQ is a way to measure it, but there are other types of intelligence too, which can be assessed to help determine if someone is gifted.
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I don't fall in love easily but it happened anyway although I've found it's best to leave the pace of things up to her, my own pace being so awkwardly slow. As a result things are going nowhere although I know we enjoy one another's company & a good party among friends. How does an impossible geek stick around a mischievous raver lady?
Those types of women are usually good for gaining experience, getting you out of your comfort zone, and helping you loosen up a little bit, but I'm not too sure about long term relationships with them, though.
Would you say this applies more to women than men? I have a friend who is a mischievous raver man and he's very much interested in long-lasting love. Doesn't mean he won't have fun in the meantime of course. I don't know many ravers so I don't have much data to go on.
I have known a few party girls, and I wouldn't really consider them LTR material for myself, but that doesn't mean they couldn't be for someone, I guess. I would assume men are probably the same way.
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