How much do looks matter?

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One of the things that puts me off from dating and trying to find relationships is the fact that I feel like I am below average in appearance. I was often bullied for the way I looked in school and even it the workplace. I also never had any woman show interest in me. I always noticed that at all the pretty boys and jocks would get all the attention from the opposite sex. I also haven't had any success with online dating sites but I notice that attractive guys too. This is just evolution taking its course I suppose. I try to exercise and eat healthy and wear nice clothes but I still hate what I see in the mirror.

inb4 "Looks don't matter"

There's no way around it, looks do matter to most people but different people look for different things. What is it about your looks that you think is below average? Aspies tend to struggle more with the opposite sex as evidenced by all the posts on this forum, so your problem might not be as much looks as you might think.

Good looking people are always going to have an easier time attracting the opposite sex though. Would you be interested in your female equivalent looks-wise?

Unfortunately, looks absolutely matter. It's the hot girls who get the catcalls from construction workers when they walk past their worksites. It's the hot teacher who gets leering glances from their male students even though she's too old to date them. It's the hot bachelor at work who the single females talk about when they congregate around the water cooler. Poor Quasimodo gets passed over for dates every time he asks someone out. That's just the nature of the beast.

Looks matter for first impressions. Looks make it easier to get a first date. After that, personality matters. When you are with people long enough, how they look fades in importance. A person who is not physically attractive can have partners.

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Just an interesting read.

Looks matter a lot more than people think.

it matters a lot. being pretty change drastically how you experience life, often pretty people tend to disagree with it because they are so used to it that it feels natural. but at the same time, it isn't the end of the world. you just have another experience in life, something maybe are more difficult, but you don't risk getting to crazy about losing your main asset while you grow older or – it stands mostly for woman – you are way less harassed at the streets. so see the positive sides too.

try to find things that are good about it, and emphasize it. there is a lot of ugly people in the world that can match with you, and maybe even some pretty ones who will like someone who have certain characteristics. you won't be the center of attention getting a lots of woman throwing themselves on you unless you are weirdly attractive and a millionaire, but it's a lifestyle for very minory and you don't need it to be happy, and you can still find love and happiness on it.

or at least i hope so