Spiderpig wrote:
You see, true, unwavering love exists---you just have to prove to be tough and successful enough to earn it first.
You know, there is a grain of truth in what you are telling.
I'm from non-capitalistic background, so it's not much about money. But I've had some spectacular successes in different competitions (male dominated) about high school age. No money but quite a lot of prestige.
And I learned the hard way that guys are not handling well if their woman is more successful than them. My boyfriends all went through the same schemes of low self esteem, depression and passive agression... until I paired up with one comparably successful to me.
I don't know if it's culture or something deeper. I don't know if it can be changed or not. But this is the world I am living in. If I don't want to give up my own ambitions (and I don't) and I want to be with a man (and I do), he needs to be as ambitious as I am. For his own mental health's sake.
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Let's not confuse being normal with being mentally healthy.
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