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Zachwashere
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27 Jul 2018, 1:00 pm

So I've always had this issue. I'm never really able to tell if someone is just being kind to me or flirting with me. Usually if I don't understand any given social situation I can use logic and deductive reasoning to be able to understand what's going on. Flirtation seems to be a little harder to get.

Has anyone else found it hard to tell if someone is flirting with them?


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27 Jul 2018, 1:03 pm

Yes. I always think, "oh, they're probably just being nice."

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I can tell they're flirting, but they're only doing it for attention and they're not really interested in me.



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27 Jul 2018, 1:10 pm

I’ve always had this issue as well. I never can tell if someone is flirting unless it’s extremely obvious or someone else tells me.

How can you tell if someone is just being nice or if he’s actually flirting?


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27 Jul 2018, 1:17 pm

Twilightprincess wrote:
I’ve always had this issue as well. I never can tell if someone is flirting unless it’s extremely obvious or someone else tells me.

How can you tell if someone is just being nice or if he’s actually flirting?


I struggle with that myself.


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27 Jul 2018, 1:54 pm

If you're male, when in doubt, they're not. If you're female, when in doubt, they are.


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27 Jul 2018, 9:15 pm

Yes, I too have had difficulty with this matter. I wish I had some advice but I'm stumped lol


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