BeaArthur wrote:
The model of weekly therapy sessions is somewhat arbitrary. What is magic about 7 days between sessions? Nothing. I personally find it more useful to have a longer interval, anyway. I know this therapist was someone you thought sympathetic, so best wishes for a productive course. I think what she told you about ruminating on the past matches what a lot of people here have said. We want you to be able to move forward, not stay stuck in a rut.
She's mentioned wanting to live more actively because sitting for too long was getting bad for her health so that's another reason why for the bi-weekly visits.
The Grand Inquisitor wrote:
Did you find that your previous therapist helped? If so, what caused you to stop seeing them?
Therapists and psychologists are trained to assist people to work through their mental and emotional problems as well as modify thought patterns to bring about more beneficial and preferable behaviour. My experience with the psychologist I had is that there's pretty much nothing they can do to help you change your relationship status or get a girlfriend, if that's what you're hoping to get out of the sessions. And if you will continue to be depressed until such a time that you have a girlfriend, the only thing a therapist or psych can really do is try to steer you in a direction that might increase your chances of meeting someone, probably by suggesting you put yourself out there more by going to social events and meet-ups, or maybe by suggesting self-improvement.
It wasn't my choice. It was due to her being bullied by medical insurance companies as well as her feeling like we hit a wall.