Older brother's brewery outshining me

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My older brother has his own brewery business in my area and it's been gaining notice. It's also furthering outshining me and pushing me further to the wayside. Someone in the meet up group I sometimes attend wants to do a game night at his business. I don't have anything special to say about myself while my older brother always will. I am thinking of telling this person to not start a meet up at the business.

Stop comparing yourself to your brother. He's a completely different person.

A better comparison is to yourself. How are you different today than six months ago? Have you met any of the goals you had six months ago? If there is not much change, then, how do you want to be different/better six months from today?

I honestly don't have nor make any goals. Whenever the year begins, I am mourning the loss of the previous year and how nothing I hoped for came true.
It's a vicious cycle that's been deeply ingrained into my mind.

I wish I could finally say I have hope in finding a girlfriend as well as my other dreams coming true.

Well, let me suggest a goal for 6 months from now. Substantial lessening of depression symptoms. That's actually do-able.

And here's a homework assignment for you. Take a notebook and for each day, write down something you have to be grateful for (even if you don't feel gratitude). An example: I have a roof over my head. It was a sunny day. Lunch was pretty decent. My feet don't hurt.

I offer this to you in a spirit of kindness, so please receive it that way, even if it sounds hokey.

I suppose it's a blessing in disguise I don't have my siblings' family problems.

laughs ... there you go!

What kinds of family problems does your brother have?

People that opt for kids are opting for chaos. It comes with the territory.

Assuming you marry a nice lady, would you want children some day?

Both of them also learned the hard way about not "wrapping up" and always expecting the women to use birth control.

I would be open to it if we were in a good life situation and my other dreams were fulfilled or atleast taking form.

I don’t have siblings.

I would define success as being happy, healthy, and able to provide for myself. Not compare myself to others. I’m sure you have many gifts.