Bullied off forum

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A lot of forums have a very harsh tone. In the past I was once bullied on a forum as well by people much older than me when I was underage so some people are quite awful but I try to remind myself that they can't be very happy if they go after other people with the sole purpose to make them feel bad. Just try your best to ignore them or make a new account on the forum and start over if they keep bothering you.

I went through a bad depression & loneliness & one of the things that helped me deal & cope with things was posting about them online. It helped me analyze, sort things out, get some things out of my system by just getting it out there, & get advice & other prospectives. I posted about things alot cuz I was really hung-up on things. People got tired of my many posts about similar issues. Some members started talking to me kind of like how you were talked to OP cuz they were extremely frustrated with me & they probably felt they were helping or maybe just trying to help. They felt I was beating a dead horse & needed to be told very explicitly. They came off as very harsh to me & I decided to leave the forum after a while of that.

I remember being bullied off this very forum and I didn't come back on here for a few days. The bullying took place in the most inappropriate sub forum of this site, The Haven.

For example on this thread, nobody starts all sentences by "in my opinion...", "I think that...".

Maybe your opinions differ from the widely accepted opinions, then you are more likely to be bullied. In this case, the above wordings may help sometimes.

One shouldn't let somebody "bully" them off a computer forum. It sets a bad precedent for the future.

People have to stop and defend themselves sometimes if they feel bullied.

You don’t think I think the same as you do?

I had no idea how to defend myself until recently. But it has to get done.

I'm not a big guy. I'm 5 foot 5, 164 centimetres. And chubby, maybe neckbeardish at times.

You don’t think I’d defend someone if I felt he/she were being bullied?

I am an advocate for the downtrodden, just like you are.

Would I ever defend a bully? Hell no!

Apparently there are people who think you can be ruder and more derogatory in a PM than you would in open forum. They don't realize how very easily you can repost a PM. I would not repost the contents of a PM without cause, but if someone is using that modality to blast me, I'll do it in a heartbeat.

This has happened to me at WP. Someone I scarcely knew existed, decided to let me know in a PM how much they don't want to hear from me. But it didn't stop there! More evil PMs! Fortunately, the mods saw it my way and the person got a very stern warning - and has avoided me ever since.

While not every mod decision is a correct one, on the whole and based on my experience at many other sites, the mods here are quite good. They have a largely thankless task (SO THANK YOU, MODS!!) and generally they do it with maturity and grace.

You might want to check out the thread on Correcting People. Part of your reaction could be due to needing the other person to acknowledge that you are right. I may recognize this, or see it in you (and it may not be there) because I have certainly known the intense fury and fear of knowing I am correct and other people won't acknowledge it.

The reason I focus on "my" reaction and actions is because that is the only thing I have any influence over. Changing other people, or living a magical life in which no one is ever rude, just has not worked for me.