Any love advice I can give my friend?
Jamesy
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One of my friends who is 18 is good looking (he looks like Jude Law) has brown hair and blue eyes as well but the only issue is a lot of girls just are not interested in him. He feels that because he is only 5ft10 he feels that his height puts him at a disadvantage when competing against taller guys who are 6ft and over. Currently he is chasing after this girl but she doesn’t like him and she is more interested in the 6ft3 doctor who has just moved into town.
Any advice I can give my friend?
On a side note a lot of people view 5ft10 as short because guys who are 5ft8 claim it. But my friend truely is a genuine 5ft10.
Being kind and seen as desirable by others is attractive to humans, far more than hight. I see you noted the other man's profession, what does your friend do? Is the girl interested because of the job? Could it be that your friend is attracted to a particular type or feature in a woman?
There is likely no advice that you could give him that he would take seriously. Just be there when the inevitable “Friend Zoning” occurs.
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My friend works in the market place selling things etc......
Any advice I can give my friend?
On a side note a lot of people view 5ft10 as short because guys who are 5ft8 claim it. But my friend truely is a genuine 5ft10.
Your friend is slightly above average in height and not going to get a date until he is honest with himself, acknowledges the overwhelming evidence that his height is not the reason he is single and the fact that he wastes his time pursuing women who are not interested in him for whatever reason is at least part of the reason he is.
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Any advice I can give my friend?
On a side note a lot of people view 5ft10 as short because guys who are 5ft8 claim it. But my friend truely is a genuine 5ft10.
Your friend is slightly above average in height and not going to get a date until he is honest with himself, acknowledges the overwhelming evidence that his height is not the reason he is single and the fact that he wastes his time pursuing women who are not interested in him for whatever reason is at least part of the reason he is.
He’s good looking though so the women he pursues should be interested.
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Your friend was not desirable to the woman he was pursuing.
That's it.
Putting it down to lack of inches is your friend's attempt to rationalise the rejection.
"She didn't like me because I'm too short."
There, it's sorted, whether it's true or not.
Then that will become, "No women like me because I'm too short."
Which can't be true, because why then aren't all short men single?
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I think the best way to help him is to try & help him get dates or meet women who are more willing to give him a chance. It may also help to try & find out why those women are not interested, besides his height. Do they think he has a low status job, do they think he's socially awkward ect. 1ce you have an idea of why women are not interested, it may help to try & work with that. Help him meet short girls if it really is his height. Help him meet awkward girls if he is & maybe try to help him be less awkward, help him meet geeky girls if his interest are too geeky, help him meet low status women if they think his job is too bad ect.
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He tried too pursue a barmaid recently but she was more interested in the 6ft3 doctor.
Another friend of mine is 5ft8 and a Buissnessman who is in a long term relationship with a girl.
Any advice I can give my friend?
On a side note a lot of people view 5ft10 as short because guys who are 5ft8 claim it. But my friend truely is a genuine 5ft10.
Your friend is slightly above average in height and not going to get a date until he is honest with himself, acknowledges the overwhelming evidence that his height is not the reason he is single and the fact that he wastes his time pursuing women who are not interested in him for whatever reason is at least part of the reason he is.
He’s good looking though so the women he pursues should be interested.
The reasons people are and are not attracted to someone are varied and numerous. Your friend is pursuing a woman who is not interested in him. That is a waste of time. Maybe this particular woman does like taller men...maybe she likes doctors, maybe she likes tall doctors. Maybe she likes him for an entirely different reason.
In any case, I don't think 5'10 men are hurting on the dating scene due to their height.
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