Will I always be told "I have a boyfriend."?

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Time to stand back up then.

You're now at an age where you have more life experience. Don't argue. You do. You now know what you don't want. That is a place to start from and develop your own goals and your own life.

Please let us help you if you continue believing that you will never find someone to love.

If you do find someone and you feel confident enough, just remember:

-Let the relationship develop at its own pace. If you meet a girl and come on as too strong to her, she may view you as desperate, creepy, or anything similar.

(Of course, you are not a creepy person. Being on the spectrum is just a part of your essence and be open about it to her as much as you can. If a girl you meet rejects you just because you're on the spectrum, forget about her and let us continue helping you.)

-Compliment her. Say the compliment as normal as you can. Girls like guys who have self-confidence instead of an ego.

(Of course, you are not a selfish person. Let us help you gain more self-confidence which in turn, could help you meet a girl who understands you and you understand her.)

-Make her laugh or smile. Girls like guys who know how to make her feel good.

-Be a sincere person.

-Show her that you truly care about her. Show her that you're serious about her instead of lusting after her because girls (again) may view you as desperate, creepy, or anything similar. Ask a girl you meet about herself. Talk to her instead of trying to kiss her.

-Never compliment a girl about her physical appearance except maybe her eyes, smile, or her hair. Even better, compliment a girl about her personality or her laugh. However, NEVER compliment a girl in a sexual manner.

-Learn how to break what is known as the "touch barrier." When you feel like you understand a girl well enough, touch her in areas that to her are not dangerous such as her back, shoulders, or even her hands.

-Be happy for her whenever she does something great or whenever she feels bad about something, try to understand her feelings and try to tell her that you want to make her feel better.

I do get told to work on myself but some, even the ones who tell me I need to work on myself, have told me there isn't anything wrong with me. I find being told those things at the same time to be very confusing.

I honestly can't set goals for myself. It doesn't come naturally for me at all.

I'm not a natural goal setter either. It's something I've had to work on. I'm quite bad at starting things and not finishing them as well.

My health is my big issue. I've actually got lots of ideas for things I want to do, but I'm really ill at the moment. I was going to paint a picture this weekend, but I've had a sore throat and just been exhausted so I've been binge watching Better Call Saul.

I may set a goal to read more instead of just watching tv. I've always wanted to read Far from the Madding Crowd. It's not like I lack the time.

My nect goal is artistic. Actually you helped with this talking about art. It made me think about just how long it's been since I did any art. I've got a big box full of paint and pastels and pencils and canvases and paper. I have no excuse, other than being completely exhausted

In any case, his problem has been solved.

I'm in the same boat and know exactly how the OP feels. I tell people that I simply lack the ability to meet single women. If I meet a woman, and after talking to her for a bit and determine there is some chemistry, I will learn she has a boyfriend/husband. It's happened every single time.

I think at certain age they are rarely single, they jump from a man right to another.

It’s like single women don’t exist.