How can I meet people ?

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I don't go to bars, clubs and pubs, and I don't feel I want to go back to volunteering again at a charity shop so how else could I meet people or date someone if I don't want to do those things ?

If you're a Trekkie, go to a Star Trek convention.

If you're into anime or whatever, go to one of their conventions.

Or maybe go to a ball game of some sort.

Most people I know seem to socialize with people who work with them, their family, and their neighbors. Many times, people are introduced to friends of family members.

In no particular order: join or attend church; Quakers are particularly welcoming to people with disabilities, find a club that meets near you and has a subject you like. There are birds, poker, orchids, native plants, astronomy, just about anything you are interested in. The activity I loved the most and was the easiest to take part in was dancing. Good dancers rarely lack for partners, especially men.

1. Go someplace where there are people.
2. Introduce yourself to them.

1.  Go someplace where there are people  Stay right where you are.
2.  Introduce yourself to them  Introduce yourself to the next person who comes into the room.

I'd recommend a dating site, but they're a waste of time. Other than that, it really depends on what you're into. You could always get a proper, paid job.

I feel like what you've described chris1989 is precisely my life. Unfortunately theirs cut backs too which doesn't help, have you enquired about joining any evening classes or meet up groups? Ones that are organised and in a safe, secure environment.

You should go to school and attend clubs and events.

Agree with the above. Good luck!

A club is good. Have a look to see if there is a group dedicated to something you like.

The newspaper can be a good source, Google or https://www.meetup.com/

*disclaimer* I've never used meetup

I live in a small rural village with a population of 311, which is about 2 1/2 hours away from anywhere, and I generally don't drive.
The other day, my social worker declared that I need to socialize more. I thought that was wonderful advice, like "why don't you practice trigonometry and calculus more often?", or "why don't you sing J-pop in Chinese?"

If you want to meet people aged between 18 and 40 you have to be into drinking because it's how pathetic society is in some cultures. If people know you drink, they will include you in Saturday nights out, no matter how socially awkward you are. True fact.

But, like me, you don't like bars and nightclub so assumably you're not much of a drinker either. It's a shame more young people in Western cultures aren't like you and I, and can just socialise and have a good time without playing the "who can get the drunkest as humanly possible?" game, followed by the "how many embarrassing, shameful things can you remember doing last night?" game and the "how much vomit can I puke up in one hour the next morning/how many painful thumps can my headache do in one minute?" game, and then the "who will be the first to get liver disease?" game.

Yep, life sucks donkey balls when you're not interested in intoxicating your body every weekend.

I do a monthly book club that's pretty casual. There's fiction and nonfiction so I'll just pick one. There's a couple 20-somethings who might show up but most are older.

Events at game stores maybe once a week. One store skews towards kids and early 20's. Another is more 20's-30's and has a lot of other women.

That plus work events maybe once a month or every other month introduces me to a lot of people right now. Definitely shop around and try different groups if you think of an activity you like. They won't all be the aame.

I've met people through meetup and I do recommend it.

10/10 for meeting people especially if you have a specific interest and desire to meet the like-minded.

This option works well especially if your looking for someone for a possible relationship. That is to ask your relatives if they know of anyone where they work that is single and might be interested.

I've been on dating sites and frustratingly I hardly get any messages from people and they view me and that's it. I am also in a paid retail job for two years but wouldn't really want to go out with my colleagues as they are much older than me.

Maybe you're being too picky then. Perhaps you could join a sports club (table tennis or chess or something if you're not very athletic).