09 Dec 2018, 12:34 pm
09 Dec 2018, 6:17 pm
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09 Dec 2018, 6:35 pm
...I'll answer something said above later, now I want to, at least, start on another reason that Patterson was unsuitable ~ The owner kept sucking at my money, depleting my stock of funds :! "(I'm not sure that " depleting " is the phrase I'm looking for 
...)
This is not a complaint about the " up-front " money I mentioned, the 92 percent-ish of my SSDI funds. This is NOT that. I am not complaining about that. Is it clear?????
I mentioned the owner, whom I will call Daniel. He provided me with rides, and more _ and charged me thriugh the nose for it! Always in cash... 
. When he drove me and my things up, and I did some more errands before leaving Santa Cruz to go up there (Which I did anticipate staying long-term at, BTW. 
), and he did pack and unpack my stuff, he charged me $100, cash. That seemed justifiable/OK, I did have a load, and I was moving up, leaving the town ...........
Then, when I took a shopping trip to the local Walgreens' and Walmart, which were - per my phone's measurements - exactly 0.7 miles away, so 1.4 miles round trip, also getting a touch of package-carrying help that I didn't really need ~ he charged me $25 dollars - in cash - for it 
. Later on, he did the same for aanother double-W trip ~ This time from a motel I had fled to, out of town, after leaving his place but hanging around trying to get back to Santa Cruz, with the only way I was going to get transportation to the Cruz back, so I didn't want to alienate him ~ again $25 in cash - Technically a better value this time around, I guess.
He also charged me $58 in cash copay for picking up a prescription of pills for me when I left - I had paid no copay in Santa Cruz. And, finally...
When he drove be back to SC, he wanted more money (in cash) - I expected that. It was less errands demanded of him this time . However, after the ride started, he expanded it to wanting $125 cash, not $100 - And THEN, when after stopping at the bank I got two 20s and offered them in addition to the main $100 ~ he said " I don't have any 5s ", and took both 20s!! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! ! 
So $348 
. All of it in cash, remember.
At this rate - Might that have depleted my cash soon? I think so.
Actually, I was out really by the time we were in SC - I also got cash for myself at the bank where I got the $40 for him.
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Renal kidney failure, congestive heart failure, COPD. Can't really get up from a floor position unhelped anymore:-(.
One of the walking wounded ~ SMASHED DOWN by life and age, now prevented from even expressing myself! SOB.
" Oh, no! First you have to PROVE you deserve to go away to college! " ~ My mother, 1978 (the heyday of Andy Gibb and Player). I would still like to go.
My life destroyed by Thorazine and Mellaril - and rape - and the Psychiatric/Industrial Complex. SOB:-(! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !!
09 Dec 2018, 6:44 pm
...As I have said, it seems that some people ~ You? ~ " demand that I do 100% what they say I should, this minute " - even though contradictory " things that I should do " come from different people - and " looking for " any facility, either, is not a simple matter of going around the corner to houses going " Yoo Hoooo! Try Us!! !! !! ! " - especially given my handicapped, and carrying heavy stuff that causes me pain , status - and the 5:45 curfew I have to follow in thes shelter (Which, let's get this out of the way - if that makes any difference ! - does not mean that I'm " rejecting " the shelter, just saying that following that makes staying out late hard!! !! !! ) - and given that this was arranged by a hospital social worker, and, really, I only have access to them when in the hospital.
And also, regarding the suggested fake GED ~ I believe that my HS graduation is on record, even if the class grades aren't (I do'wanna look now, but...) if XFG is from NZ, maybe things work differenntly there ~ But I doubt that, even if my diploma proff is lost, a GED course would accept that story too easily ~ And, if it's not lost, I think I'd to come up with an elaborate false story as to what I was doing from 14-18 or so - and such a falsy might well be an offfense, telling a false story for fraudulent purposes!
"Claradoon"]I am puzzled as to why you keep insisting that the OP heal himself according to your instructions. I doubt that will happen. My life is similar. I think we should just support OP, lend an ear, let him talk about it, etc.
About the wonders of Patterson, I escaped a magnificent such home myself. The glamorous trap almost destroyed me.
I hope some people can recover but if me and OP are 2 of them, just be a friend.[/quote]
The difference is that the OP actively solicits advice and then tears every bit of it up in a rant that includes tearing into the author of said advice. If the advice is too good to actively destroy, he changes the subject and solicits advice regarding something else.
No one here is actively saying Patterson is the ONLY answer to his issues, I for one say if it is as bad as he says, I wouldn't want to be there either. The state of CA has more services for the disabled than likely anywhere else in the world, the OP just won't seek them out. There are other places than just Patterson.[/quote]
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Renal kidney failure, congestive heart failure, COPD. Can't really get up from a floor position unhelped anymore:-(.
One of the walking wounded ~ SMASHED DOWN by life and age, now prevented from even expressing myself! SOB.
" Oh, no! First you have to PROVE you deserve to go away to college! " ~ My mother, 1978 (the heyday of Andy Gibb and Player). I would still like to go.
My life destroyed by Thorazine and Mellaril - and rape - and the Psychiatric/Industrial Complex. SOB:-(! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !!
09 Dec 2018, 7:28 pm
, status - and the 5:45 curfew I have to follow in thes shelter (Which, let's get this out of the way - if that makes any difference ! - does not mean that I'm " rejecting " the shelter, just saying that following that makes staying out late hard!! ! ! ! ! ) - and given that this was arranged by a hospital social worker, and, really, I only have access to them when in the hospital.And also, regarding the suggested fake GED ~ I believe that my HS graduation is on record, even if the class grades aren't
(I do'wanna look now, but...) if XFG is from NZ, maybe things work differenntly there ~ But I doubt that, even if my diploma proff is lost, a GED course would accept that story too easily ~ And, if it's not lost, I think I'd to come up with an elaborate false story as to what I was doing from 14-18 or so - and such a falsy might well be an offfense, telling a false story for fraudulent purposes! About the wonders of Patterson, I escaped a magnificent such home myself. The glamorous trap almost destroyed me.
I hope some people can recover but if me and OP are 2 of them, just be a friend.
The difference is that the OP actively solicits advice and then tears every bit of it up in a rant that includes tearing into the author of said advice. If the advice is too good to actively destroy, he changes the subject and solicits advice regarding something else.
No one here is actively saying Patterson is the ONLY answer to his issues, I for one say if it is as bad as he says, I wouldn't want to be there either. The state of CA has more services for the disabled than likely anywhere else in the world, the OP just won't seek them out. There are other places than just Patterson.
This is not 1900, you don't have to walk around to every Assisted facility in the state, you can call places to see what they offer. Since you are admittedly un-tech-savvy, I suggest you ask the shelter you are at for a current telephone directory and get the numbers of places fitting the description of what you want. Write the numbers down, and call each of them and narrow down the list to a select few candidates and visit those when you have a free day and feel up to the task.
I have no clue where this "Fake GED" idea ever came from, but dispense with it rapidly. Your diploma does exist, RR did all the footwork to get it, look through your PMs with him and dig up the phone number/e-mail address of your high school and contact them.
I wish you luck.
09 Dec 2018, 7:31 pm
...) This is not a complaint about the " up-front " money I mentioned, the 92 percent-ish of my SSDI funds. This is NOT that. I am not complaining about that. Is it clear?????
I mentioned the owner, whom I will call Daniel. He provided me with rides, and more _ and charged me thriugh the nose for it! Always in cash...
. When he drove me and my things up, and I did some more errands before leaving Santa Cruz to go up there (Which I did anticipate staying long-term at, BTW. ), and he did pack and unpack my stuff, he charged me $100, cash. That seemed justifiable/OK, I did have a load, and I was moving up, leaving the town ...........Then, when I took a shopping trip to the local Walgreens' and Walmart, which were - per my phone's measurements - exactly 0.7 miles away, so 1.4 miles round trip, also getting a touch of package-carrying help that I didn't really need ~ he charged me $25 dollars - in cash - for it
. Later on, he did the same for aanother double-W trip ~ This time from a motel I had fled to, out of town, after leaving his place but hanging around trying to get back to Santa Cruz, with the only way I was going to get transportation to the Cruz back, so I didn't want to alienate him ~ again $25 in cash - Technically a better value this time around, I guess.He also charged me $58 in cash copay for picking up a prescription of pills for me when I left - I had paid no copay in Santa Cruz. And, finally...
When he drove be back to SC, he wanted more money (in cash) - I expected that. It was less errands demanded of him this time
. However, after the ride started, he expanded it to wanting $125 cash, not $100 - And THEN, when after stopping at the bank I got two 20s and offered them in addition to the main $100 ~ he said " I don't have any 5s ", and took both 20s!! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! So $348 . All of it in cash, remember. At this rate - Might that have depleted my cash soon? I think so.
Actually, I was out really by the time we were in SC - I also got cash for myself at the bank where I got the $40 for him.
If all this is true, Patterson, and its proprietor are crooked and I wouldn't expect you to want to return to that place.
09 Dec 2018, 8:00 pm
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10 Dec 2018, 12:00 am
...) This is not a complaint about the " up-front " money I mentioned, the 92 percent-ish of my SSDI funds. This is NOT that. I am not complaining about that. Is it clear?????
I mentioned the owner, whom I will call Daniel. He provided me with rides, and more _ and charged me thriugh the nose for it! Always in cash...
. When he drove me and my things up, and I did some more errands before leaving Santa Cruz to go up there (Which I did anticipate staying long-term at, BTW. ), and he did pack and unpack my stuff, he charged me $100, cash. That seemed justifiable/OK, I did have a load, and I was moving up, leaving the town ...........Then, when I took a shopping trip to the local Walgreens' and Walmart, which were - per my phone's measurements - exactly 0.7 miles away, so 1.4 miles round trip, also getting a touch of package-carrying help that I didn't really need ~ he charged me $25 dollars - in cash - for it
. Later on, he did the same for aanother double-W trip ~ This time from a motel I had fled to, out of town, after leaving his place but hanging around trying to get back to Santa Cruz, with the only way I was going to get transportation to the Cruz back, so I didn't want to alienate him ~ again $25 in cash - Technically a better value this time around, I guess.He also charged me $58 in cash copay for picking up a prescription of pills for me when I left - I had paid no copay in Santa Cruz. And, finally...
When he drove be back to SC, he wanted more money (in cash) - I expected that. It was less errands demanded of him this time
. However, after the ride started, he expanded it to wanting $125 cash, not $100 - And THEN, when after stopping at the bank I got two 20s and offered them in addition to the main $100 ~ he said " I don't have any 5s ", and took both 20s!! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! So $348 . All of it in cash, remember. At this rate - Might that have depleted my cash soon? I think so.
Actually, I was out really by the time we were in SC - I also got cash for myself at the bank where I got the $40 for him.
If all this is true, Patterson, and its proprietor are crooked and I wouldn't expect you to want to return to that place.
Actually it doesn't sound crooked or even all that steep. $125 to move a load 111 miles and 1.5 hours driving time (according to Google maps) is a resonable fee. $25 for errands is also resonable. $58 for a co-pay is a bit steep but not outrageous.
Care service provision is expensive, and "Daniel" is a care service provider, not a next door neighbor or whatever.
A care service provider was never hired to go to Walgreens or other errands while staying at the motel, taxis were used instead. And taxis could have been used in Patterson.
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10 Dec 2018, 12:13 am
...There was no " office " in the Patterson place, it was simply a suburban house. Yes, the nearby morel would have cost more. I was not looking live there! It was an initial getaway, a stepping stone, as I prepared to leave Patterson! If you do have that impression that I was trying to live there, why do you? Did I not make myself clear before? I have thought you have tried before to set me off, by the way. I was staying there to try and arrange to get back to Santa Cruz and Daniel was the only way I knew how to get back so I was not alienate ating him But, aside from the $348, Daniel was to show EVEN MORE reason to suspect him - But I won't go into it now.
Some people here seem to be uttely OBSESSED with the "You need a nurse to dole out pills to you " narrative! I TAKE THE GODDAMN PILLS ALREADY!! !! !! ! (ITTGPA)
BTW, if you think I should go to a computer course
at night --- how would this fit with being curfewed at 5:45 PM?. Or having any sort of social life?????
I don't find that depletion of my payments for rides is appropriate for me, period. And when I get to the other things he did...
And as it happens, there was no taxi service in Patterson. And I think i was never in the downtown of Patterson...just the outskirts big-box/ chain store area. And I think I never was in nearby, bigger... Modesto? Okay, some of you are just UTTERLY DETERMINED that I be argued into a closet and the door locked behind me . " It's for my own good " of course .
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Renal kidney failure, congestive heart failure, COPD. Can't really get up from a floor position unhelped anymore:-(.
One of the walking wounded ~ SMASHED DOWN by life and age, now prevented from even expressing myself! SOB.
" Oh, no! First you have to PROVE you deserve to go away to college! " ~ My mother, 1978 (the heyday of Andy Gibb and Player). I would still like to go.
My life destroyed by Thorazine and Mellaril - and rape - and the Psychiatric/Industrial Complex. SOB:-(! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !!
10 Dec 2018, 12:29 am
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