"When you start dating, you're gonna have a hard time".
My friend says this to me sometimes, and I have to wonder if perhaps they have a valid point. I can get uncomfortable when people get physically too close to me, so that might end up being a problem in the future. Also the way people eat and the sounds they make when doing so can bother me, and sometimes I have to leave the room. I realise there are things about me which might make dating more difficult, but I suppose for now I have no way of knowing what the future holds and only time will tell. Not even sure why I'm thinking about this. I hate those articles that say things such as "Top 10 things you'll know if your partner is a picky eater" and people admit to hiding certain foods in their partner's meal. Why? They're not a child, if their eating habits concern you then why not just have a conversation about it?
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I think when you enjoy a persons company enough to want to date them, all the little quirks that everybody has fade out of view. You just have to find that person that wants to focus on the better parts of you.
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Probably off challenging as many social norms in as little time as possible
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But when the honeymoon period is 9ver tgey start to grate on you and it ends up in arguments.
My Mom hates so many little things about my Dad.
It's not really a mandatory milestone or hurdle you have to overcome as some people may try to convince you. Just be you, do what you enjoy and don't feel pressured into what you don't.
But when the honeymoon period is 9ver tgey start to grate on you and it ends up in arguments.
My Mom hates so many little things about my Dad.
That is a good point. I think shared values are even more important that whether or not you find them to be the hottest person on Earth or if you enjoy their company because, in time, their looks may fade and you may begin to gravitate toward different interests and activities as well as the reality mentioned above that those little things about them that annoy you a little bit now may annoy you much more over time. But, if you have shared values, then it is more likely that the two of you will stick it out and work through those things because, if nothing else, you at least have your values in common and those are the foundation of everything else.
You are fortunate in the fact that you are a female which means that you are not necessarily expected to make the first approach or even to initiate any of the first moves after that. I don't mean this to tell you that you don't have to do anything, only to say that you don't necessarily have to feel like there is a great deal of pressure on you to perform or have all your conversation lines and logistics on point. If you take care of your health and physical appearance, practice good hygiene, stay polite and kindhearted, and don't be a complete shut-in so that interested guys can actually see you and know that you exist, there is a good chance that you will be approached by an interested guy and all you really have to do then (assuming you are interested) is go along for the ride and not be too relentless with the sh*t tests (I did not want to write a curse word but this is the most common term used to express this concept) so as not to drive away any potential suitor.
I'm gay.
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Being able to approach someone you are attracted to is important no matter what gender or orientation you are. Almost everyone gets a good feeling from having someone approach them and express an interest in them. If you do it with respect and honesty you will not have trouble dating.
All the popular kids at my school had girl friends/boy friends at 13 or 14. Majority of kids had been in a relationship by 16. Reaching the age of 16 and never had a girl friend I knew it was all over for me and I accepted my fate of being forever alone. Unattractive, introverted guys with a lack of social skills are not wanted.
It depends really, usually I assume that the other person will not make the first move since most people think I'm straight. My orientation doesn't come up that much, generally speaking. Back when I was around fourteen, I made the first move in a relationship but that wasn't the move that started it. Well, if you can even call it a relationship, it barely even counts. I asked out a girl and she rejected me, which was fair enough, she told me that she didn't swing that way so we agreed to remain friends. However, the story didn't end there. A few days later much to my surprise she asked me out, apparently she'd been thinking about it and came to the conclusion that she might have feelings for me after all. We decided to start dating, however we couldn't show it much since I was in the closet and she didn't want people to know she was questioning.
Our relationship was short-lived, as she broke up with me three days later. She told me that she had realised from this experience that she was straight after all.
Although, as you may have guessed, the story doesn't end there either. We went back to being friends, although we didn't even kiss or anything so it wasn't really much of a relationship but I digress, and things went back to normal. Until she decided to ask me for help with finding out if a guy she liked happened to like her back, that was kind of weird but I mean, sure, we were friends again I could do that no problem, but it turned out that the guy didn't like her back.
Then we agreed to never bring up this supposed relationship in conversation, and we hung out as friends as we usually did. However, one day I was staying over at her house and she almost kissed me out of nowhere but there were footsteps outside the door so we didn't. That sure was one confusing day, up until then I'd thought she wasn't interested, but then suddenly she tries to kiss me? What the...why? I decided to pretend that moment didn't happen, and we just talked as if nothing was different but there was this weird feeling in the air that seemed to linger but neither of us wanted to address it.
We were hanging out with a few other people and watching a movie one day, when people laughed as they noticed that we were copying each other's body language. The level of awkward in this situation was well...yeah. *Cringes*.
....And that's why I don't usually bring this situation up if people ask me if I've ever dated someone/what crushes I've had.
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