Compromise?

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A few days ago, my bosses gave out coupons to let us see any movie we want at whatever time we want at a certain theater. Everybody got two. I've been talking to this girl online, and I asked if she'd like to go see a movie with me, and I'd use the coupons to get us in. She said sure, she wants to go see Bohemian Rhapsody. I'm not at all interested in that movie, and asked if she'd be okay seeing Wreck-It Ralph 2, and she said no. Now I'm in an awkward position. I don't want to waste my coupons seeing a movie I'm not interested in with a girl who may or may not (leaning heavily towards will not) actually want to date me someday. But I also don't want to call off the date and keep my tickets to myself like a selfish jerk, especially since going to the movies was my idea in the first place.

What do you guys think?

Dude, if you ever want to see this woman, you have to show her that her company is a higher priority to you than your interests.

Make the sacrifice and see her movie. You don't have to like it, but she does have to see that you like her.

If she was already my girlfriend, yeah I'd do it without a second thought. Compromise is essential to any relationship. But I don't feel right immediately caving to her desires on the very first date. We're not a couple, we haven't even met in person yet, so using my resources to spend my free time doing something only one of us is going to enjoy just feels... I dunno, like it sets a bad precedent for the future.

Kind of like, "I want to see this movie. Will you come with me if I pay for the tickets?"
"No, you can pay for the tickets and we can see my movie."
"Yes, dear."

Could you go through all the movies now showing and pick one you'd both enjoy?

Just see Wreck-it-Ralph with the girl......

Remember.....you just might not watch too much of the movie

But she doesn't want to see that...

I saw Bohemian Rhapsody. It was a pretty good movie.

I'm not sure if this is the "right" answer, but if it were me, I would try to find someone who already has an interest in the movie you want to see and watch it with her. It seems morally justifiable because it results in the least suffering, since anything else would result in you or her seeing a movie you don't want to see. Equally justifiable would be giving her a coupon to see BH and watching ralph 2, since you wouldn't even have to change plans, just go together and watch different movies. Giving her both coupons would be generous, but perhaps overkill. I don't recommend it.

I would go to any movie with a woman----provided it's not a morally repugnant movie---or something which is too "heavy."

The object, sometimes, is to NOT watch the movie LOL

I'd just see the movie she wants.
As a romantic gesture.
Even though you aren't yet dating, ya gotta put your best foot forward.

Go to Bohemian Rhapsody. Be the bigger person and let her see the movie she is interested in.

Of course, you won't take my advice on this.

Looks like someone doesn't understand how compromising with a woman works.