Would you be willing to enter a sexless relationship?

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Would you enter a sexless relationship?
Yes-I'm male 27%  27%  [ 14 ]
Yes-I'm female 25%  25%  [ 13 ]
No- I'm male 31%  31%  [ 16 ]
No- I'm female 17%  17%  [ 9 ]
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04 Dec 2018, 12:01 pm

If you could enter a relationship, but it was purely companionship even in marriage, would you do so?
I like the idea of entering a relationship eventually but I feel like most people are obsessed with sex, which scares me off from even trying.


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04 Dec 2018, 2:22 pm

I've been in many sexless relationships before. They're great. A better name for it is "friendship".



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04 Dec 2018, 2:42 pm

I'm sort of on the asexuality spectrum & desire companionship & love aLOT more than sex. Me & my current girlfriend have a sex a few times a year & the problem I have with that is that she teases me & leads me on. She talks about doing stuff but almost never gets around to it because she's feeling bad, feeling stressed, or something comes up. She also teases me byn getting naked in front of me & doing & saying very suggestive stuff. I'd be OK never having sex if she wouldn't do those things to me.


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04 Dec 2018, 2:48 pm

If I fall head over heels for someone----and she didn't want sex, I would bite the bullet so to speak.

I would masturbate to obtain my sexual satisfaction.



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04 Dec 2018, 2:52 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
If I fall head over heels for someone----and she didn't want sex, I would bite the bullet so to speak.

I would masturbate to obtain my sexual satisfaction.



Are you talking about a friendship or an actual relationship, i.e., cohabitation? If the latter, I would find that quite difficult, and probably would never consider it.



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04 Dec 2018, 3:03 pm

It would be like being an artist who doesn't do drugs.

It's possible, but you're missing a key part of it.


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04 Dec 2018, 3:11 pm

It wouldn't be my first choice; second, third, or fourth for that matter.


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04 Dec 2018, 3:13 pm

Donald Morton wrote:
It wouldn't be my first choice; second, third, or fourth for that matter.



Owl second that.



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04 Dec 2018, 3:18 pm

Going into something where the understanding is that you can't do/have something increases the likelihood that at least one of the two people will fixate on it to a degree and then desire it. We want what we can't have.

I could see something like that being more feasible for two people who were largely asexual but left the possibility open even if only on rare occasion rather than literally forbidding it or ruling it out all together.


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04 Dec 2018, 3:26 pm

Sabreclaw wrote:
I've been in many sexless relationships before. They're great. A better name for it is "friendship".



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04 Dec 2018, 3:28 pm

Nope.
It would be like slowly starving to death.


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04 Dec 2018, 3:32 pm

I've gotten so used to masturbating in my "dry" years-----that I find it almost comparable to actually making love with a person.

I'm very attracted to women. And to their femininity.



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04 Dec 2018, 3:36 pm

If I thought she was worth it, I'd be willing to give it a go.



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04 Dec 2018, 3:42 pm

This would really depend on the definition of sexless. If you are simply defining it as penis in vagina intercourse then sexless really just cuts out one very specific act that many couples aren't even physically capable of having (homosexual couples, people with physical issues, etc). Depending on the person people can be sexually reactive to all sorts of different things. With some people just what other people would consider non-sexual touch could get them off. Some people's bodies will react just to words with the other person a continent away.

I would think that within a caring couple if one person needed sexual release and the other person didn't that they would find a way to make it work for both parts of the couple somehow. Otherwise it would end up being a rather unsuitable long term relationship for either one or the other. I can't really imagine a romantic relationship (not a friendship) where intimate touch or contact of some kind wasn't somehow involved. Admittedly I am NOT asexual, but I'd think that even an asexual would want to support some kind of physically intimate connection with someone they want a long term romantic relationship with if the other person did want something of that kind?



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04 Dec 2018, 3:50 pm

I think I would.


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