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Kitty4670
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05 Dec 2018, 5:52 pm

Why a guy can say that he wants to talk to you still, but he have not talked to you in 6 days? He been coming online & reading my messages to him. I’m tired of hoping he will talk to me, he doesn’t want to talk to me anymore :cry: He haven’t unmatched/block me yet. If I’m really right about him that he don’t want to talk to me anymore,why can’t he tell me without ignoring me? Anyway I’m trying to move on, I been talking to more men :D


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05 Dec 2018, 6:28 pm

Most people or atleast women on dating sites don’t unmatch you they just stop talking to you.
They’d have to do work to unmatch you they don’t have to do anything to stop talking to you.



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05 Dec 2018, 6:40 pm

Most people say that about me, if this guy is anything similar to myself then he probably just doesn't like talking in general.



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05 Dec 2018, 7:59 pm

For some reason LOTS rather ghost the person than simply tell the person they don't want to be together or talk anymore. I think NTS like to avoid directly communicating that in order to save face. They think it's less painful for each other if they just disappear from the person's life.


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05 Dec 2018, 8:23 pm

nick007 wrote:
For some reason LOTS rather ghost the person than simply tell the person they don't want to be together or talk anymore. I think NTS like to avoid directly communicating that in order to save face. They think it's less painful for each other if they just disappear from the person's life.


What do mean ‘ghost the person?’


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05 Dec 2018, 8:56 pm

Kitty4670 wrote:
nick007 wrote:
For some reason LOTS rather ghost the person than simply tell the person they don't want to be together or talk anymore. I think NTS like to avoid directly communicating that in order to save face. They think it's less painful for each other if they just disappear from the person's life.


What do mean ‘ghost the person?’


You never heard of being ghosted? I got this definition off google.

“Ghosting” is when someone you're dating ends the relationship by cutting off all communication, without any explanation. ... There are many psychological reasons why someone ghosts, but at its core, ghosting is avoidance and often stems from fear of conflict.



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05 Dec 2018, 9:16 pm

If they're not interested, they could politely say and wish you all the best, then play mind games

Mind you, if people have trouble talking and communicating, makes you wonder why the very same people seek a potential relationship or friendship

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you've said you've been talking to more men, good for you! if a man likes you, he'll pursue you, if not, he's not interested and if he's not that into you, he's not worth being into either. Sounds like he's just talking to you when it's convenient for him, when he ignores you, he's probably too busy talking to other women. Forget about him, out of sight, out of mind! good luck!



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06 Dec 2018, 12:22 am

sorrowfairiewhisper wrote:
If they're not interested, they could politely say and wish you all the best, then play mind games

Mind you, if people have trouble talking and communicating, makes you wonder why the very same people seek a potential relationship or friendship

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you've said you've been talking to more men, good for you! if a man likes you, he'll pursue you, if not, he's not interested and if he's not that into you, he's not worth being into either. Sounds like he's just talking to you when it's convenient for him, when he ignores you, he's probably too busy talking to other women. Forget about him, out of sight, out of mind! good luck!


Men say women play mind games :lol: and they want drama free too :lol: I figured he’s talking to other women. When we first talked,he said sexual things to me, maybe the people on WP were right, he was looking for friends with benefits. Last time we talked it was last Thursday, he said he still want to talk to me & then he stopped talking to me, it been almost 7 days, I don’t understand. I wish I can forget him, I’m still attracted to him, maybe I’m attracted to bad boys.


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06 Dec 2018, 4:00 am

^ Maybe he saw you just as a fap material, and left when he's done.



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06 Dec 2018, 4:29 am

You’re a nice woman, Kitty. I hope you find yourself a decent guy.



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06 Dec 2018, 4:48 am

You may have already explained this in one of the other threads, but for how long were you talking to this guy? And how often did you meet in real life?

If it was only a short time and you didn't meet in person or just once or twice him just stopping to communicate instead of telling you he's not interested seems to be fairly normal - not really the right way to handle it, and not everyone handles it like that, but normal nonetheless.

In that case the reason why he ignores you instead of telling you:
Cowardice
Laziness/Indifference



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06 Dec 2018, 7:58 am

Women can always date each other.


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06 Dec 2018, 8:09 am

yup. ghosting is a thing people think is acceptable these days - not just social media but in real life too! if you havent met him in person then no point trying to talk to him. plenty of other fishes ;)


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06 Dec 2018, 8:15 am

Stay far, far away from inconsistent people. I personally would rather be told to "bug off" than to be confused from inconsistent behavior. When they seem confusing to you, it means they are not interested. Be careful. If I can suggest a good read for you - "The Gaslight Effect" by Dr. Robin Stern.



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06 Dec 2018, 8:30 am

I’m still attracted to him, maybe I’m attracted to bad boys.


Don't mistake sociopathy (Bad boys) for protective, confident males. Bad boys give off this allure because they don't have a conscious, their confidence is blown-up vanity, and their drives are way too accelerated. When people are all about themselves, we delude ourselves into thinking they have it all, so we give it all to merge with them. They will tear your life and your heart apart. Even ruin you for all others. Don't try to change or "save" this type of person or think that if you love them more, they will change. They are completely content and happy as they are. They don't know any other way. Read "The Sociopath Next Door" by Dr. Martha Stout. Also read books about "Narcissists".



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