Where to meet intellectual and/or technical women?

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Any ideas about hobbies in which one can meet intellectually and/or technically oriented women?

Unfortunately most of things I can imagine (computer clubs etc.) are mostly populated by men.

Book clubs
Writers' circles
Community orchestras
Community theater
Boards of directors of many nonprofit organizations
Steampunk conventions and other cosplay
Historical societies
Computer genealogy groups

to name just a few

Toastmasters

Amateur Radio clubs
RPG events
Museums
Observatories
Conservatories
Universities

In the Muslim countries:

https://slate.com/human-interest/2017/1 ... neers.html

You might find someone who is smart, but you also need to get to know them as a person and form a bond that goes beyond intellect. I’ve met a lot of people who were smart but also had awful personalities. I admire intelligence and might appreciate an intellectual partner, but I mostly care about someone’s values, their personality, how they treat others, what they care about, etc. But having stuff in common is a good start in finding that someone, so good luck!

Broaden your standards. For whatever reason, either cultural or biological, technical/nerdy personalities are mostly found in men. Unless you're some kind of sex God you probably can't compete with all the other men chasing after these rare women.

I've also had problems in this area, as I refuse to date women not up to my intellectual and artistic standards. All of the places so far suggested are either populated almost exclusively with men or with - perhaps - old women. I suppose university is an exception, but that's not necessarily an option, especially with fees being so extortionately high. You'll also find it surprisingly difficult to find ANYBODY (of either sex) genuinely intellectually inclined on a university campus; I was enormously disappointed to find that more or less everybody studying at university is either entirely contemptuous of the intellect and intellectual pursuits (the majority) or just tedious poseurs who wants the image of "intellectual" rather than the actual substance behind it.

I joined a chess club recently only to discover that every single member is male (not that I joined to meet women, but I'd considered it as a possibility). I joined a French group at the library a few years ago and everybody was at least twice my age.

I've come to the conclusion that there simply aren't any women I would find attractive left, which is surprisingly liberating.

Go to the places mentioned above and be genuinely nice and respectful, without being a pushover. A lot of women in male oriented environments would rather eat their own ears than date some of their male peers, because of the careless misogyny that is common in many such environments. So they are not as unapproachable as you think, but they don't like being approached by men who lecture them on their own subject or talk loudly about how their perfect woman ought to look, for example.

Btw, here the thing, In my country more than 50% of STEM are females (like most of the Arab/Muslim world), including Engineering, I have seen a lot of female engineers, IT specialist and coders in my first workplace (which was a huge company), half of the IT department were females.
The rarity of females in STEM is a so alien thing to me but I understand it’s the case in the West.
But yet, none of them had a «geeky » personality, yes that’s very very rare among females so if you are thinking of moving just to meet female geeks you will be disappointed.

I'm a programmer and I frequent bookstores and coffee shops. Not sure if this counts for much.

I know another female programmer from gaming groups.

The qualities I value in a woman are learned skills and work ethic. In my case intellectual/technical are not requirements.

I sort of relate. I'm ret*d compared to the stereotype of us Aspies being geniuses in the sciences or great with other subjects. & I'm stupid at least compared to the average NT with LOTS of things. Intellectuals tend to talk over my head or treat me like I'm dumb. I actually prefer women who are what others might call stupid. they are aLOT more relatable to me & I find getting simple things confused & mixed up funny & cute.

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