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24 Jan 2019, 12:39 pm

Waiting for the bus today a random young woman asked me if I was waiting for the bus. I said I had to go visit my husband in the hospital... I mentioned I don't have much of a social life cause I am worried about his health all the time. She said "I don't have a social life cause I have Asperger's" she has a special interest in math... Didn't even get her name before the bus came but she lives in my building... I guess aspies are closer to me than I think but I don't know how to handle this well....


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24 Jan 2019, 12:41 pm

Spend a little time and make a friend.


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24 Jan 2019, 1:57 pm

Sounds like a potential friend to me.



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24 Jan 2019, 3:10 pm

If she lives in your building you will probably have another chance to meet her and disclose that you are an aspie too, if that is what you want to do.


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24 Jan 2019, 5:40 pm

You are not obligated to "do" anything.


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24 Jan 2019, 11:03 pm

Ehhh, I just got excited to meet a fem aspie lol. I did tell her I might have it myself and I liked birds. I already made a friend, the old lady across the hall from my apartment... She's just lonely and invited me over to watch an old TV show with her.


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24 Jan 2019, 11:17 pm

That's nice! You are making friends. It must feel good.


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25 Jan 2019, 1:06 am

Spend some time and get to know her.


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25 Jan 2019, 12:03 pm

I'd also recommend getting to know her, she could be interested in having a friend as well, especially someone on the spectrum who knows what is is like.


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25 Jan 2019, 2:41 pm

It's possible she's a bit more intuitive than you are, suspected you were on the spectrum, and dropped a hint to see how you'd react by openly stating that she was autistic. I think she's trying to make a connection.



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25 Jan 2019, 3:04 pm

Angnix wrote:
Waiting for the bus today a random young woman asked me if I was waiting for the bus............ She said "I don't have a social life cause I have Asperger's" she has a special interest in math... Didn't even get her name before the bus came but she lives in my building... I guess aspies are closer to me than I think but I don't know how to handle this we...........
That sounds like she was putting out a feeler (we would hope it was not a scam with ulterior motives-- one should be a little bit cautious as an aspi might be percieved as easy pickings-- but we should stop short of paranoia)........ Moving on with the notion that it was a straitght forward honest feeler, I think you should follow up on it. An obvious possible follow up the next time you meet her. would be
------ "Say, Your comment last time we met that you made about 'No social life and Asperger's' , Are you familiar with the web site for Aspies like us called Wrong planet .net . It is a website for aspies and autistics by aspies and autistics. It is a good place for those of us on the spectrum to hang out on line......" Then just wing it from there and see where it leads.


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25 Jan 2019, 3:08 pm

outlander wrote:
Angnix wrote:
Waiting for the bus today a random young woman asked me if I was waiting for the bus............ She said "I don't have a social life cause I have Asperger's" she has a special interest in math... Didn't even get her name before the bus came but she lives in my building... I guess aspies are closer to me than I think but I don't know how to handle this we...........
That sounds like she was putting out a feeler (we would hope it was not a scam with ulterior motives-- one should be a little bit cautious as an aspi might be percieved as easy pickings-- but we should stop short of paranoia)........ Moving on with the notion that it was a straitght forward honest feeler, I think you should follow up on it. An obvious possible follow up the next time you meet her. would be
------ "Say, Your comment last time we met that you made about 'No social life and Asperger's' , Are you familiar with the web site for Aspies like us called Wrong planet .net . It is a website for aspies and autistics by aspies and autistics. It is a good place for those of us on the spectrum to hang out on line......" Then just wing it from there and see where it leads.


If I see her again I was thinking about mentioning wrong planet


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