[ POLL ] Advantages to Not Dating: Agree or Disagree?

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The basis of this poll is to determine the relative agreement or disagreement with this list -- NOT to impose my opinions upon others or make excuses for those who cannot get dates.

What Makes Being Dateless Great For Aspies:

1. You are free from becoming another victim of "Date Rape".
2. You are free from being accused by your date of being an "emotionless psychopathic mass-murderer" for no good reason at all.
3. You are free from being accused of "Date Rape".
4. You are free from being body-shamed by your date.
5. You are free from being criticized by your date for your choice of venue.
6. You are free from being criticized by your date for your clothing, hairstyle, or makeup.
7. You are free from being criticized by your date for your table manners.
8. You are free from being followed and harassed by an ex date.
9. You are free from being followed and harassed by your date's ex.
10. You are free from being hit on by some creep who thinks that paying for your dinner means that you owe him some "action".
11. You are free from being pressured by your date to join his or her religion.
12. You are free from being pressured into taking the relationship to the "next level".
13. You are free from being stood up by your date.
14. You are free from dates that feel more like job interviews.
15. You are free from discovering that your date is already married.
16. You are free from ever being stood up.
17. You are free from feeling pressured to "put out" when you really just want to be friends.
18. You are free from finding out first-hand what a "Roofie" hangover feels like.
19. You are free from finding out that law enforcement has a warrant out for your date's arrest.
20. You are free from finding out that your date has made an enemy of the local crime boss.
21. You are free from having to deal with a person who believes that every date must lead to sexual activity.
22. You are free from having to deal with an obsessed psychopath who considers one date to be a declaration of betrothal.
23. You are free from having to discuss philosophies, politics, or religious doctrines that are not yours.
24. You are free from having to endure endless questions from your family and friends regarding every minute detail of the time you spent with your date.
25. You are free from having to explain to your date what "Stimming" is and why you do it.
26. You are free from having to go through all of the work and worry to get ready for the date, only to have a miserable time with your date.
27. You are free from having to listen to your date suggest all kinds of crackpot "cures" for your AS/HFA.
28. You are free from having to listen to your date theorize all kinds of crackpot reasons as why you have AS/HFA.
29. You are free from having to listen to your date theorize all kinds of crackpot reasons why you could not possibly have AS/HFA.
30. You are free from having to listen to your date's personal obsession for hours on end.
31. You are free from having to make up ridiculous lies to get out of a bad date.
32. You are free from having to pay for someone else's meals.
13. You are free from having to pay when your date pulls off the old "dine and dash" tricks.
14. You are free from having to pay when your date pulls off the old "I forgot my wallet" trick.
35. You are free from having to provide someone else's transportation.
36. You are free from having to put on an act to impress your date.
37. You are free from having to spend an entire week's pay in one night just to impress your date for a few minutes.
38. You are free from having to spend the last hours of your date in the Emergency Room describing what happened to the Police.
39. You are free from having to watch your date play with his or her smartphone.
40. You are free from having your date make a "quick trip to the restroom" in the middle of the date, and never coming back.
41. You are free from the anxiety of wondering if your date was really into you, or was just being nice to you.
42. You are free from the embarrassment of having to explain to your date's parents how he or she got so drunk.
43. You are free from the humiliation of your date going home with someone else.
44. You are free from waking up in a bathtub filled with ice, feeling a dull ache in your side, discovering a crudely sutured incision there and finding a crudely-scrawled note saying "Call 911".
45. You are free from waking up next to a stranger in a strange place and not remembering how you got there.
46. You are free from worrying over whether or not your date will be insulted if you offer to pay half, or if you have to ask for your date to pay half.
47. You are free from your date's emotional "baggage".
48. You are free to choose where you're going.
49. You are free to go home whenever you choose.
50. You are free to stay home if you want to.

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This list has 10 more entries than the original.

Please answer the poll as you see fit, and submit your comments below. You may change your vote at any time. No personal attacks or "pity me" posts, please. Thank you.

Last edited by feeli0 on 06 Feb 2019, 12:28 pm, edited 1 time in total.: at OP's request to add 10 more items to list

I can't think of any benefits to "dating"; the sex drive is an anachronism which is destroying the world in return for no benefits whatever.

Because it's fun?

I can't think of any benefits to watching a non-educational movie. Oh wait, yes I can. It's fun.

What's the point in learning anything in life if you're never going to relax? You can't just sleep and learn/work, you have to enjoy yourself some time.

Not all dates are that horrible.

If you go for the right person, they can be great.

I also don't think it's worth missing out on life-experiences.

Over half those bad experiences have actually happened to people that I knew. It made me feel a tad less desperate for a relationship but also made me feel scared that something bad might happen if I got in a realtionship. I was still desperate to have one thou. Thankfully I kinda skipped the dating state with all 3 of my girlfriends.

Dating is completely worthless, but being in a relationship or being involved in neurodiverse courtship is something completely different.

On this point i agree with you.

To me dating is playing high stakes with my limited social energy.

If that's you're experience in dating, you need to fish a different river, mate.

As my Beloved will attest under oath, I suck at dating, yet somehow she's stuck by me these past eight years.
Even a blind pig finds a nut every once in a while.

It's not necessary to use dating as a method of finding a partner. Dating is a neurotypical preference that doesn't make much sense for NDs/Aspies. It's very much possible to find a partner without using dating. Online dating is especially bad, particularly for guys.

I agree with the list 100%, and have experienced many if not a majority of those situations. I could add more to the list.

amen

None of that stuff has ever happened to me while dating. Are you trying to console the dateless wonders?

Some people find murder and torture fun, it doesn't mean I (or anyone else) should be in favour of those things.

The issue here is that people have been blinded by the ridiculous pro-sexual nonsense (sells well) with which the media is saturated and, being unable to think for themselves, they've swallowed it. No rational person (not many of those around anymore) who looked at the sexual act and its effects on the individual and society could conclude otherwise than that it's a dangerous drug akin to heroin and has similarly pernicious effects to those of mass drug addiction on society. Sex is a drug, the only difference being that the chenicals that comprise the drug are being administered from inside the addict's body.



Thank you.

Last edited by Prometheus18 on 06 Feb 2019, 8:41 am, edited 2 times in total.

Fun for you maybe. For me dating is a chore. What's so fun about going to a restaurant with a complete stranger? The reason I do this chore is because it can lead to a relationship and having a relationship is fun.

Hardly. They are inconsolable. There is nothing that can be said to the world's "dateless wonders" that would ever divest them of their own feelings of utter worthlessness.

In real life, most of these things don't happen on a regular basis. I have considerable experience in this. It's not like all these things are inevitable. They are not.

There is the POTENTIAL for most of these things to happen. One has to be wary of the potential for these things to happen.

I put "mostly disagree."