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livingwithautism
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11 Feb 2019, 7:30 pm

There’s someone who is driving me crazy. He has mild autism. Here are the things he does:

1. Asks too many questions.
2. Sits/stands too close to me.
3. Follows me around the house.
4. Walks so fast I can’t keep up.
5. Tries to force conversation.
6. Uses words I don’t know.
7. Hovers around me.

I don’t know how to solve these issues. Please advise.



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11 Feb 2019, 7:32 pm

Is this person a relative of yours?



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11 Feb 2019, 7:37 pm

Just tell him



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11 Feb 2019, 8:07 pm

Just tell the person not to sit so close to you. Tell the person you like him/her----but that you need your space.

The person is mildly autistic---so the person should comprehend what you are saying.



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11 Feb 2019, 8:18 pm

blooiejagwa wrote:
Just tell him


I already tried that.



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11 Feb 2019, 8:18 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
Is this person a relative of yours?


No.



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11 Feb 2019, 8:21 pm

If this is in an autism group, I would mention this to the person who runs the group.



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11 Feb 2019, 8:22 pm

Hard things to solve- and common for a lot of us.

Perhaps write out what is bugging you and why, and show it to him. Also ask why he feels the need to do it and see what can be done from there?


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11 Feb 2019, 8:32 pm

Maybe he cannot imagine an alternative

I know i am like that but at least i am self aware enough (from a lot of feedback) tht i apologize n check in with the person n try to find alternative ways

Maybe u cd help redirect him or have somebody else explain n redirect his need to talk n so on or minimize it n engage him in other stuff

EG online forums are a gd outlet fr me as I no longer bother ppl in real life as much n just say exactly whatvi wd have said to them here
Bcuz i know ppl here r not forced to reply or care

they can ignore or skip over my posts with ease n no offence on either side

So maybe someone else or you cd help redirect him with tasks or alternatives



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11 Feb 2019, 8:43 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
If this is in an autism group, I would mention this to the person who runs the group.


I already tried that.



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11 Feb 2019, 8:46 pm

blooiejagwa wrote:
Maybe he cannot imagine an alternative

I know i am like that but at least i am self aware enough (from a lot of feedback) tht i apologize n check in with the person n try to find alternative ways

Maybe u cd help redirect him or have somebody else explain n redirect his need to talk n so on or minimize it n engage him in other stuff

EG online forums are a gd outlet fr me as I no longer bother ppl in real life as much n just say exactly whatvi wd have said to them here
Bcuz i know ppl here r not forced to reply or care

they can ignore or skip over my posts with ease n no offence on either side

So maybe someone else or you cd help redirect him with tasks or alternatives


It’s not my job to redirect him.



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11 Feb 2019, 8:48 pm

Ok? I don’t know your exact situation I’m just suggesting as u asked fr advice
Otherwise u cd just be blatantly rude n ask ppl to protect u frm him as well as he is intrusive enough that it is affecting your peace of mind



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11 Feb 2019, 8:49 pm

Some ppl don’t respond to anything except rudeness as everything else they forget but rudeness is memorable n unpleasant enough tht they may stop



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11 Feb 2019, 8:52 pm

blooiejagwa wrote:
Ok? I don’t know your exact situation I’m just suggesting as u asked fr advice
Otherwise u cd just be blatantly rude n ask ppl to protect u frm him as well as he is intrusive enough that it is affecting your peace of mind


It’s hard for me to communicate to people.



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11 Feb 2019, 8:57 pm

livingwithautism wrote:
blooiejagwa wrote:
Ok? I don’t know your exact situation I’m just suggesting as u asked fr advice
Otherwise u cd just be blatantly rude n ask ppl to protect u frm him as well as he is intrusive enough that it is affecting your peace of mind


It’s hard for me to communicate to people.


Could you write something like, "Knock it off" on a card, and take it out and show it to him whenever he starts?


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