Self-affirmation Pledge for those with AS
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Willingness to problem-solve alone ♦ Ability to problem-solve methodically, logically ♦ Good at academic work ♦ Very fast reasoning, logical thinking ♦ Keep calm in crisis, still able to think logically ♦ Sincere, honest, no hidden agenda ♦ Direct – gets to the truth ♦ Good focus (when interested) ♦ Good at following structure, enjoys categorisation ♦ Care about how others feel ♦ Good instinct about stuff e.g. how someone feels e.g. animals ♦ Sensory experience unique ♦ Faithful, loyal ♦ Determined, strong minded, survivor, inner confidence ♦ Try hard, put in a lot of effort, persistent ♦ Articulate ♦ Good at helping others ♦Research – looks things up, finds things out ♦ Strong moral code ♦ Not afraid of being unique, no need to be like others
This comes from the Autism in Pink for girls. I love this list and when I feel low I look at this and remind me how special I am.
All is love and light.
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I will take inspiration from the player who inspired me to take up a racquet for the first time, Denis Istomin. I call these affirmations "The Istomin Rules,"
"Never look back, only forward."
"I don't think about a comeback. I'm here now."
If these things could help Denis Istomin overcome a car accident, certainly I, with less serious hurdles to overcome, can achieve my goals.
Yes! All is saved forever. All love returns to the giver of love, and that is how what goes around comes around.
@IstominFan: Yes, excellent point! I have a lot less I need to do to become what I want to be (as opposed to who I want to be-- I already am who I want to be) than say someone who needs to do a lot of rehabilitation to be able to walk or whatever.
@LAstchild3: It's good Asperger's In Pink has some good stuff in it; I heard some bad stuff about that book.
What inspires me most about Denis Istomin is the combination of his mother's love and coaching and his own determination to succeed. In his interviews, he described the process of coming back in the two years between his accident and his return to tennis. He did it with a sense of humor, as well. I love listening to him talk because he is so inspirational. (He's nice to look at, too!)
I am intelligent and insightful.
I see past the veil that sees the ugly truth beneath that all those take for granted.
I am handsome, beautiful and deserving of fulfillment and happiness.
I will find the love of my life someday who is as beautiful as me.
I am different and, for that, I have value.
I am powerful in my own writer because I am educated, creative and willful.
I make the purpose in my life.
I am a person even if people think I have less value than they do.
I am happy I overcame my traditionalist indoctrination from my youth and proud of myself for becoming the man I am.
I am glad I became a gamer and found peace the many times I've button mashed in front of a computer screen.
I have found solace, after much fear, in my identity as a differently-minded human being.
I'm overjoyed I've gotten my bachelor degree, found myself and still remain hopeful despite having no job.
And I'm blissfully nostalgic over the many trysts, intimacies and heated moments of passion over all the hot girls I've experienced during the last couple of decades.
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I look to God (or as a lot of you like to say "superstitious nonsense") for my self-affirmation. That's all I need.
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"When a man lies, he murders some part of the world.
These are the pale deaths which men miscall their lives.
All this I cannot bear to witness any longer.
Cannot the kingdom of salvation take me home?"
People in general are idiots that only look one step ahead and don't really care about the things that are required for future generations to enjoy the gift of a great life the current generations have been given; The caring they display is mostly lip service and isn't aimed at actually achieving the outspoken empathic goal. "It's the thought that counts" is how they justify the result ending up all wrong. They believe in lots of falsehood and don't use the brains they've been given to question their beliefs, even though that would enable them to better achieve what they claim is the goal of their values. They make lots of fuss about petty matters and act disorderly unless there's authority there to boss them around.
Here is where Aspergians shine - we are people that don't compromise with our values, and use our brains to the fullest in finding out the best way to achieve the values we believe in. Even though our main focus is on systems like our societies or the planet, things that everyone is dependent on, we do go beyond lip service if we find that someone needs us and actually try to solve their problems. We strive to understand the world in an unbiased way and don't just accept false beliefs. We do have a tendency to have a defiant anti-mentality, but in time, we contemplate the different ways you can look at an issue and find some focus that requires our attention. We truly care about the things we're studying, and since we don't bother adhering to the nonsense that's in the public debate, we're often labelled "extremists". We also are able to operate as individuals, we don't need a crowd to chant that we're right to state our beliefs.
I think that the first men that ascended from the lower primates must have seen weird like we do and initially have been outcasts - these men probably didn't groom their friends in the same way that we don't bother doing any social grooming.
I feel that this syndrome has been a very important part of collective human intelligence and progress throughout history, and that's the justification for our existence.
Agreed, but the aspies your describing are the alpha aspies, those true non-conventional intellectual elite among us who really don't need someone to tell them how to think. Those like us are aspie savants. The aspie savant is the next major phase in evolution, people less aspie are stages on the spectrum of this change in evolution, and the low functioning are, unfortunately, the victims of the cycle.
But if you looked at this forum, and blindly thought that a greater majority of people here are aspie, then you wouldn't see too much of a difference from NTs, and it would make aspies look like hypocrites. Some on here are phoney, some are in varying degrees of autism on this spectrum and may not be as aspie as we are (going by the beautiful mind theory), and of coarse some of them might have just been badly affected by their environment. Some are nice and respectful NTs, and occasionally a not-so-respectful NT. But then there are us few, proud, aspie savants. I raise a toast, Fedaykin.
Wow this is good stuff. I'm not sure if im Aspie or ASD €prior to DSM change€ as i struggle in basics too much like coordination etc
It comes n goes if im in flow n everything is ok i can be better. But not most of the time
But severe ASD too havr a huge gift in terms of presenting a level of insight n perspective that NTs can miss but need
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