Asperger’s guys who want male friends but not female friends

Page 1 of 1 [ 8 posts ] 

Mapofsteel
Tufted Titmouse
Tufted Titmouse

Joined: 26 Feb 2018
Gender: Male
Posts: 44

05 Jul 2019, 5:38 pm

I wanted to know how many other straight cisgender guys besides me there are on the spectrum who only want other straight cisgender guys as their friends?



Fireblossom
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 18 Jan 2017
Gender: Female
Posts: 1,183

06 Jul 2019, 5:31 am

Why do some people only want same gender friends? Can someone explain?



BenderRodriguez
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 9 Feb 2012
Gender: Male
Posts: 1,394

06 Jul 2019, 5:42 am

No, I enjoy having women friends. Non-"straight cisgender guys" too.


_________________
"Facts do not cease to exist because they are ignored." Aldous Huxley


RunLoganRun
Emu Egg
Emu Egg

Joined: 3 Jun 2019
Age: 33
Gender: Male
Posts: 1

08 Jul 2019, 11:14 am

I much prefer female friends. For me, I think it's the more casual/relaxed interactions, most male friends make me feel more competitive, and like I have to be 'on' all the time; which can be draining, and not what I want out of a situation that's already mentally taxing. Plus it can be tough to engage when I have waaay less in common with most of them than I do with girl friends. That said some of my best friends are male, but they're the ones I have the same interests as.

Maybe you're just seeking the social situations that make you feel most comfortable? For example, your sexuality may be raking up emotions that don't suit platonic relationships.



kraftiekortie
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 4 Feb 2014
Gender: Male
Posts: 59,638
Location: Queens, NYC

08 Jul 2019, 11:30 am

Quite frankly, if you don't have women as friends, it's much more difficult to find a suitable woman as your life partner.

Having women as friends helps you understand women.

Just like women having men as friends helps them understand men better.



funeralxempire
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 27 Oct 2014
Age: 34
Gender: Male
Posts: 2,969
Location: I'm on the streets like curbs

13 Jul 2019, 1:01 am

Unless you rap or like cars, if you're male I'm probably not that interested in forming a close relationship with you. I can't conceive of not wanting to have women in my life, and not just as a partner, but merely as friends and people to talk to.

It would make a lot more sense for an exclusively gay man to prefer only male companionship, but as a straight guy it's inconceivable.


_________________
Currently in a long-distance relationship with sobriety, but I might be cheating. :evil: :twisted:


CockneyRebel
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 17 Jul 2004
Age: 44
Gender: Male
Posts: 103,086
Location: Hanging out with my fellow Sweet Peas at Stalag 13

14 Jul 2019, 9:47 pm

I want to be friends with people of all genders and orientations.


_________________
Schultz

viewtopic.php?f=11&t=26&start=645


nick007
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 4 May 2010
Age: 36
Gender: Male
Posts: 22,003
Location: was Louisiana but now Vermont

15 Jul 2019, 6:59 am

CockneyRebel wrote:
I want to be friends with people of all genders and orientations.
I wouldn't exactly say I want to make friends cuz for the most part I'm happy not having friends thou I am open to friendship. I'm just not gonna make the 1st move or seek it out. I try not to judge people by their gender & orientation & instead judge them by how they treat me.


_________________
But I don't want to go among mad people, Alice remarked.
Oh, you can't help that, said the Cat: we're all mad here. I'm mad. You're mad.
How do you know I'm mad? said Alice.
You must be, said the Cat, or you wouldn't have come here.