My heart is broken

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I keep trying to distract myself, but it keeps creeping up on me and I just sit and cry.

I've never had anyone be this interested in me. Then to have it suddenly stop is devastating.

I know this happens to people all the time and I should cope better, but it's so difficult for me to find people I get along with let alone any romantic interest that this just feels like being dropped from a great height.

We were so happy one minute then nothing the next. I've never experienced that before and I don't know how to process it. It just hurts all the way through me.

Is he open to talking to you about it? I am sorry you lost a good friend.

I'm sorry you're hurting so much, Hurtloam. Losing a friend is even harder than losing a love.

Stay strong.

My heart goes out to you. I had it happen to me. I didn't actually start dating until I was 36. (Years not months). It was going so well. We were so close. Then I found myself agreeing to marrying her. (Is actually a long story... Too long to put in here in its entirity). Well. She just out of the blue stopped all contact. It went from intense dating (No sex but we were very close between us) with arrangements for marriage to a complete sudden unexplained halt.

[It turns out I was dating a lady who seemed to date men for the purpose of doing something harmful and then dumping them to get revenge on men as she was raped when she was in her early teens is the basic gist of it, and sadly I wasn't her only victim].

Anyway. The situation you are in. Never do what I did. Never blame yourself. I became a little suicidal in a way... What pulled me out of it was that that I had learned from a work college who had not seen me for a while due to ever changing shift work, that he saw her dating another man and they were very closely aquainted. I realized what had been going on. I felt a right fool to have treated myself like I did.

Anyway. My thoughts to you. Look after yourself. You are beautiful. Don't give up hope that the right one will come along for you. You may not feel like it yet, but treat yourself to something nice. Something that makes you feel happy.

Maybe a nice ice cream? Oh. And we can be your friends in here, ok?

I know how heartbreaking it is. I'm not one to throw in the cliched "oh he wasn't a good friend to begin with", or "it's his loss" or "he wasn't worth it", etc. People just say those cliches to make you feel better. But in reality, he meant a lot to you, and it is your loss big time, so it will matter to you and it will be heartbreaking. I wish there was something I could do. But just keep posting here about your feelings on this, as it does help to let others know how you are feeling, whether it's offline or online. That's what the Haven is for. I do feel for you, I really do. Hugs.

Are you going to be okay hurtloam? In time the blue sky's will come back and the sun will shine once again, it's only a matter of time. Mr blue sky will mend that broken heart in time.

Thank you so much for all your kind comments. I wasn't expecting it.

I think what hurts most is when my friends offline don't realise how much this meant to me. A lot of this took place via messages and no one but the 2 of us know what our relationship was like. It's when people just expect I should be over it now because we aren't a serious couple, that really hurts and that's what made me start crying again today.

This mattered to me.

I guess because these people found their relationships easily it's no big deal to them. You just move on to the next one. That's more difficult when you have a personality like mine. It will take a while to meet someone I click with again.

I don't know if this is helpful, but your situation reminded me of this song:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S9N-33T9Fvs

Hopefully you can appreciate the sentiment if not the song. Time heals all wounds.

Aww. Well I think you are cool because you have a fraggle as a picture. Find something you like to do and go and treat yourself. Something exciting or even something new. Whatever you think may help. Have a lovely day. x

I went to visit some friends and had lunch with them.

Had a nice day today. Got a day off work tomorrow.

Ooh. Well done. Any exciting plans for tomorrow?