You sound like you're having an experience similar to mine. When I was growing up in the 1970s, they put me in a "special ed" class for part of a day, decided I was doing too well there to need it, and put me back into regular classes from then on, where I'd always struggled before. My performance was very uneven and unpredictable, so they decided I was just smart but lazy.
I also had trouble finding friends, but this got easier after I became an adult. There are lots of hobbies that involve a variety of types of gatherings, and many of the people in groups gathering around a hobby are odd balls to the rest of society in a variety of ways.
A great way to find a crowd where you can be safe and comfortable, if you choose to be social, is to explore these kinds of groups. Since pretty much everybody there is seen as weird by the rest of the world, even if only for having whatever hobby it is, folks tend to accept each other better and help each other out more. If a group is large enough, you can even try hanging out with one subgroup of friends or another, there being a more accessible pool of options if the first group doesn't work out.
Unlike school or work, in a social group gathering around a hobby, you're not stuck anywhere. You're allowed to leave if you want, or you can stay and just participate in the activities with a different bunch of people that you discover you get along with better. Also, lots of groups that have official organizations associated with their activities have strong policies against members being abusive in any way. The policies are in the organization's official rules.
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23 Jul 2019, 3:33 pm
