single, happily married, unhappily married, divorced?

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What is your long-term relationship status?
Single and expect to remain so 15%  15%  [ 22 ]
Single so far but hoping for relationship 19%  19%  [ 28 ]
In a relationship, and expect to remain so 33%  33%  [ 48 ]
In a relationship but not happy with it 3%  3%  [ 4 ]
In a relationship but partner is not happy with it 3%  3%  [ 5 ]
Separated or divorced 20%  20%  [ 29 ]
Other 7%  7%  [ 10 ]
Total votes : 146

MrsPeel
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03 May 2021, 12:08 am

Hm, it's been 3 years since I left my (now ex-) husband.
For the first time I'm starting to feel a little nostalgia for our marriage and his company...
Looks like it took this long to get over the trauma of it all 8O



Charleyjustchillin
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03 May 2021, 9:01 am

MrsPeel wrote:
Hm, it's been 3 years since I left my (now ex-) husband.
For the first time I'm starting to feel a little nostalgia for our marriage and his company...
Looks like it took this long to get over the trauma of it all 8O


I hear you. I don't know if it's true that time heals all things, but time definitely has an impact on how we feel about our past. Glad you are having some positive memories.


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15 May 2021, 11:27 am

I voted Other because while I would want a relationship, I don't feel I could apply myself toward a healthy one. My mental health has always been better when I'm not trying to date. I seem to easily attract very toxic people. I don't know how to trust anyone enough to really believe in it anymore, and that would really be a set back, even if the other person was truly genuine. I am unhappy about it, definitely. But I get put in bad situations when I think I'm being open or trusting and vulnerable to new people. Just can't keep doing it. I have small hope that it can change sometime. I just don't know how to make that change.



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15 May 2021, 11:53 pm

SpottedMushroom wrote:
I voted Other because while I would want a relationship, I don't feel I could apply myself toward a healthy one. My mental health has always been better when I'm not trying to date. I seem to easily attract very toxic people. I don't know how to trust anyone enough to really believe in it anymore, and that would really be a set back, even if the other person was truly genuine. I am unhappy about it, definitely. But I get put in bad situations when I think I'm being open or trusting and vulnerable to new people. Just can't keep doing it. I have small hope that it can change sometime. I just don't know how to make that change.


Try the Bloomington, Indiana area - it seems to have many open minded people who are open to socializing (though of course there are many bad people and you should do your own due diligence!)



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10 Jun 2021, 7:31 am

I'm unhappily single. I am a family guy. I feel really grey when I'm not being for my family. I'm not really sure what seems so challenging about relationships but I just carry on. Found out that ladies Who had their Dads in their life miss something from that in a relationship. Unsure what it is as my Dad was barely around which pretty much made me the man of the family as a kid... I grew up with two older sisters and Mom so I might want to converse closer to 30k words a day rather than the half that guys apparently like to talk.

Anyway I enjoy my companion, learning Her. Her eyes when she laughs... Her tone when I bring her some picked flowers.

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10 Jun 2021, 9:04 am

i don't believe at this point in my life that there is anybody out there for me, nor that anybody out there sees me as mate material.



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10 Jun 2021, 9:45 pm

I'm divorced, and currently not looking. I discovered that I am less stressed single than I was when I was married. Sure, there were some happy moments there, but not enough to save it. I didn't get out of it at first, because I didn't think I would find anyone else, but I learned later on that even if my marriage failed, it's not the end of the world. If I don't find another man, that's fine, because I have a big family and friends who support me. I have since discovered new talents and learned new things about myself. As for whether or not I will find Mr. Right, I will have to wait and see. I might see him later in life, or never, and I am fine with that.


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Charleyjustchillin
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10 Jun 2021, 10:31 pm

WitchsCat wrote:
I'm divorced, and currently not looking. I discovered that I am less stressed single than I was when I was married. Sure, there were some happy moments there, but not enough to save it. I didn't get out of it at first, because I didn't think I would find anyone else, but I learned later on that even if my marriage failed, it's not the end of the world. If I don't find another man, that's fine, because I have a big family and friends who support me. I have since discovered new talents and learned new things about myself. As for whether or not I will find Mr. Right, I will have to wait and see. I might see him later in life, or never, and I am fine with that.


I'm in a similar situation. On one hand, I do hope to find the right person for me. But on the other hand, being by myself and being enough for myself is very liberating. Best of luck to you.


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