I have zero sympathy (what's new, right?).
If kids knew how 'not fun' it can sometimes be to be a parent, but they don't. Don't get me wrong, sometimes it can be very rewarding. I loved when my kids were small, or when I could help them with school projects, etc... But, once they reach a certain age (like 12), it's not always a good time.
I knew my mom was not thrilled, so I considered everyday I survived as a gift. But these little s**ts must think they are a day at the beach. It doesn't help that places like California are hamstringing teachers from even suspending them. I can and do encourage my granddaughter to talk to me, if she has a problem. But, I have no intention of being an emotional or physical punching bag.
I hope this kid is tried as an adult.
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Disagreeing with you doesn't mean I hate you, it just means we disagree.
Neurocognitive exam in May 2019, diagnosed with ASD, Asperger's type in June 2019.