POF is pissing me off

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I made myself an account on Plenty Of Fish last week, and there was this one person who I exchanged a few messages with, but it's been quite a few days now since I've heard from her. Other than that glimmer of hope, things have not been too great. The one thing that's especially been irritating me was when someone "wants to meet me", then when I message them, I'll get this message:

"This thing keeps closing over and over on me. If you get this just grab my number(phone number)i dont bite haha:)"

I took the bait the first time, but what she said in the texts were completely different from what her profile said(a couple years older than she really was, different location, different intent). And then I got the same exact message from a few others over the last few days.

All that aside, I know it's only been a week, but I've hardly had any luck, a few ladies have already ignored me, and I'd be foolish to believe that it'd be any different on another dating site.

Sometimes, I think that there should be a dating site here even though I find them scary. I'm married but my younger brother uses dating sites and had some scary incidents with people. He won't tell me what but urges others to take a lot of caution. Every time he goes on his phone he'll say "another f'n nut!, figures!!"

I hated POF, the format was really hard to look at and navigate for me...and also did seem hard to tell out of the few messages I was able to read if they were real or just like scams. Granted that was like 5-6 years ago, but from your description does not seem it has improved much.

I much preferred OKcupid, much user friendly and functional format at least in my opinion.

Also most messages I sent got ignored...that is just the way it is you send a message, maybe you get a response maybe you don't.

those are fake accounts promoting some sort of scam, im not sure exactly how but theyre trying to get your money

sadly those fake accounts are basically the only women i ever get any contacts from

POF’s name was a complete misnomer in my experience unless you were willing to settle for single mothers, ghetto dwellers, and redneck women even redneck men find repulsive. It was instrumental in making me hate dating sites.

I tried it once and it honestly made my stress level skyrocket almost instantly. I think it’s because the whole summer I spent on those sites stressed me out to the point of feeling “burned out”. I don’t even try anymore these days but I still feel unbearably miserable since I start the day feeling lonely about my singlehood and the day ends with me still being single. I truly feel like I will suffer until I die.

I try not to look down on other people since I know they can certainly return the favor, but it does hurt when women who seem like they should have no right to be picky ignore me. I just really dont see what they immediately recognize as awful about me? Especially it was from solely glancing at my profile or reading a single message.

What is the culture you live in generally like?

it really doesnt matter where you live, single moms and whatnot are omnipresent

In reality, I'm really not one to give advice but just seeing a few of your posts you really seem like like someone who is too negative about everyone and everything

Catfisher. Ignore or waste their time, at your discretion. They get to know you (or so they think), then ask for laptops, phones or gift cards.

I don’t see anything positive from your posts either. I have my reasons for how I feel and I am not going to stop posting just because someone doesn’t like what I say.

It honestly doesnt matter what I think of you, its what everyone else wants. I have a goal to be more positive, and trust me labeling people as stuff like slu*ty single moms, ghetto whores, rednecks, bible thumpers just kind of makes you seem genuinely unpleasant. Hell Im sure there some negative labels people could attach to you, so try and think about that before you overly judge people

I never said “slu*ty single moms” nor “ghetto whores”. Don’t put words in my mouth. That says a lot more about you than it does me. Why don’t you actually live up to your own advice?

This will be my last off topic reply.

What are your reasons for categorically avoiding "single mothers" and "ghetto dwellers"? Would you avoid them even if they share your interests and worldview?

Online dating in general is a fairly irritating experience for just about everybody - it's hard (as a man) to get matches and then hard to get them to talk to you, though in my case some better photos and a bit more experience with talking to girls online would help alot. Try and get some advice on your profile, otherwise just don't get too invested in it or you'll drive yourself up the wall

Now, I got a question for those of you who met your current, or ex-long time partner on a dating site

How long after setting up your account did you meet that person?

I have irritability issues when it comes to little kids, even with my own nieces and nephews. I also have no experience with baby sitting, feeding, changing diapers, giving medical treatment, and taking children to school.

When it comes to women from the ghetto culture in my area, they tend to be very anti-intellectual and aggressive to the point of lashing out physically in response to things they dislike. I had a co-worker who was from that culture slap me on my hand physically and snarl at me if I didn’t do something right or fast enough in her eyes. I’ve had some get very argumentative and threatening at me during my job and some have also been very pushy with me when they panhandle.

Both demographics also tend to be part of the “Jesus fan club” (I can elaborate on this if you wish.), have no interest in the media I enjoy, and their world views often heavily clash with mine.