How you see your self vs how others see you

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12 Oct 2019, 10:07 am

I see myself as a strategic conversationalist however others think that I just don’t talk much. Also I can focus more looking away from people.


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12 Oct 2019, 10:19 am

My own perception of myself matches what most people around me in real life thinks; which itself inconsistent. :lol:


... For now. :twisted:


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12 Oct 2019, 10:22 am

I see myself as someone who's out of the shoal. Others are losers who need approval from others to feel less inadequate.



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12 Oct 2019, 10:34 am

GonHunter wrote:
I see myself as someone who's out of the shoal. Others are losers who need approval from others to feel less inadequate.
I see so others may view you as arrogant or self centered when in reality you are just self reliant


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12 Oct 2019, 10:52 am

I see myself as a Wolfman; others agree with that assessment.



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12 Oct 2019, 11:36 am

I see myself as determined and perseverent, while others see me as lazy and not caring. This is because others only see that I fail at things, they don't see how hard I tried just to fail.


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12 Oct 2019, 12:23 pm

I have an impression that how others see me tells a lot more about themselves than about me.
The ways people perceive me vary enormously and people are often completely wrong about me but they give out about their own insecurities.
As an example - I don't naturally recognize social pecking orders. Several times it got me accused of being greedy for power - by people who, to my evaluation, had that issue themselves.
I don't neatly fit any well-defined drawer (not even the autistic one), so people incapable of seeing others as individuals spit the wildest judgements about me.


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12 Oct 2019, 4:37 pm

I see myself as struggling/failing in many aspects in life. The main being social and physical.

However after filtering events through others it appears people want to speak to me (who I accidentally ignore) and I have never looked how I think I do.

It's all very confusing.



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12 Oct 2019, 9:54 pm

I don't know how others see me but i feel unlikable towards most people.



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13 Oct 2019, 10:10 am

Before I left my job I suspect that many managers thought I was demanding to be treated differently.

The irony was, and it was their loss really, that I was demanding to be treated the same. If my colleague has to do 10x units of work please may I have 10x units of work and not the 5x that I am being given.

May be they didn't like me being demanding, but since that followed hinting, suggesting, requesting, pleading and requiring, I don't think there was much more I could do.

You just can't help some managers....... :lol: :lol: :lol: :roll:



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13 Oct 2019, 10:17 am

Many of history's great geniuses were self-doubting and lacking in confidence, even though others felt very differently.



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14 Oct 2019, 7:58 pm

Edna3362 wrote:
My own perception of myself matches what most people around me in real life thinks; which itself inconsistent. :lol:


... For now. :twisted:
I see interesting you have a constantly changing self perception I guess we all do in some like if I do something good I see myself differently then screwing up


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14 Oct 2019, 8:00 pm

[quote="kraftiekortie"]I see myself as a Wolfman; others agree with that assessment.[/quote 8)


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14 Oct 2019, 8:03 pm

dragonsanddemons wrote:
I see myself as determined and perseverent, while others see me as lazy and not caring. This is because others only see that I fail at things, they don't see how hard I tried just to fail.

I see that sucks I understand this myself I usually ignore the failures and people who don’t support me. I feel like if you live out your self image you will be more successful


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14 Oct 2019, 8:08 pm

magz wrote:
I have an impression that how others see me tells a lot more about themselves than about me.
The ways people perceive me vary enormously and people are often completely wrong about me but they give out about their own insecurities.
As an example - I don't naturally recognize social pecking orders. Several times it got me accused of being greedy for power - by people who, to my evaluation, had that issue themselves.
I don't neatly fit any well-defined drawer (not even the autistic one), so people incapable of seeing others as individuals spit the wildest judgements about me.

Your right people usually just have some feeling in themselves which make them see you a certain way we are all individuals who must be judged as such rather than assumptions and preconceived notions


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