My 2nd & current girlfriend are on the spectrum but my 1st was NT. However my 1st also had dyslexia, ADHD, & alittle OCD. I struggled majorly to get a date & I think part of the problem is that I have communication problems with NTs. I'm very direct & straightforward & I have misunderstandings with NTs. I also don't have my sh!t together with life partly due to my Aspergers &/or other comorbids. I think other Aspies are better able to relate to that. However my personality within a relationship is kinda the opposite of a stereotypical Aspie's. I LOVE being close & affectionate with my partner whereas the stereotypical Aspie wants more space. Thankfully my current girlfriend is more on my level when it comes to being close & affectionate. Given a choice I would chose another Aspie but I would of been very willing to be with an NT. When I was single I was mostly wanting someone who would give me a real chance & actually put forth some effort into making the relationship work instead of everything being one-sided.
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But I don't want to go among mad people, Alice remarked.
Oh, you can't help that, said the Cat: we're all mad here. I'm mad. You're mad.
How do you know I'm mad? said Alice.
You must be, said the Cat, or you wouldn't have come here.