Can’t stop thinking about these harmful words

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04 Dec 2019, 2:51 pm

“I don’t like you...I am not your friend. Now what do you have to say about that?”

“You need to get your head out of your ass!”

“You’re going to Hell!”

“You better not come to Houston or I will arrest you!”

“Nice guys finish last, man.”

“You need to get your dick wet, Mark!”

(What a bully said about me to my older brother) “Mark likes to take it up the ass as well as his mouth and he never forgets to swallow!”

(Seeing my old picture) “That’s when you were attractive. Now your hair is thinning and you stutter. But don’t worry, man, I’m not getting f****d either.”

“They were just trying to toughen you up!”

“Mark, you’re never getting laid!”



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04 Dec 2019, 7:23 pm

Those are their words and not yours, Brother Marknis.

However, I can understand how you feel about such hateful words. In fact, my uncles are both "redneck types" (along with a "redneck neighbor") who expect me to conform to "redneck stereotypes" whenever they visit.

The next time one the other or both visit, I'll just stay out of the house regardless of what my mom says.


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05 Dec 2019, 10:36 am

I wouldn’t stay around either. I usually go to the comic book store as a “safe house” from my redneck stepfather.



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05 Dec 2019, 11:07 am

Learn to like who you are. It is not your job to be like other people or think like them.


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05 Dec 2019, 5:11 pm

Mountain Goat wrote:
Learn to like who you are. It is not your job to be like other people or think like them.


I concur. Gender stereotypes are very misguided concepts for those who believe in them.


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06 Dec 2019, 9:43 pm

I think overworking probably stresses people enough to put a lot of nasty stuff in our heads. It's more important to perceive things that actually matter as opposed to ugly nonsense people thought up in a competitive environment.


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07 Dec 2019, 9:19 am

Hi Mark, you are getting nasty things the wrong way. All at all you need to improve your self-confidence a lot. Style yourself a bit cooler (it's your decision), stop your negative thinking, start to hit the gym. Give less about the other guys opinion about you. Treat them friendly but ignore them. Keep in mind that nobody likes depressive guys with low self-esteem and especially women don't. For this you should learn to become the opposite now.


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07 Dec 2019, 9:28 am

AnonymousAnonymous wrote:
Mountain Goat wrote:
Learn to like who you are. It is not your job to be like other people or think like them.

I concur. Gender stereotypes are very misguided concepts for those who believe in them.

This.
How was it? "It is not what goes into the mouth that defiles a person, but what comes out of the mouth; this defiles a person." I know you're not religious, neither I am, but this quote is wise.
These words tell a lot about people who said them and nothing about you.


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07 Dec 2019, 10:29 am

Taking the list from the top:

1) I've said stuff like that to people. The meaning is pretty self-explanatory. Do you want people like this in your life?
2) Your head won't fit in there, even if you could stretch that far, and it's too dark in there to read.
3) I don't know. Are you? It's a personal decision. Perhaps these people are Calivinists & believe they are prediestined. Or maybe more likely they think they are God.
4) Even if this guy was a cop, he can't do this without losing his job. And how the hell will he know you're in Houston? It's a big city.
5) The incel paternoster.
6) Well, do you shower or take a bath very often?
7) Now how does HE know so much about how that works... :roll:
8) His last sentence.
9) Toughening people up isn't likely to help them find a relationship...girls like people who are kind to them, at least some girls do.
10) What makes this guy think that will fix everything? He's mistaken manly confidence with the juvenile braggadocio of the bully.

Marknis, the entire board is suggesting YOU! NEED! DIFFERENT! FRIENDS!


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07 Dec 2019, 11:18 am

Borromeo wrote:
Taking the list from the top:

1) I've said stuff like that to people. The meaning is pretty self-explanatory. Do you want people like this in your life?
2) Your head won't fit in there, even if you could stretch that far, and it's too dark in there to read.
3) I don't know. Are you? It's a personal decision. Perhaps these people are Calivinists & believe they are prediestined. Or maybe more likely they think they are God.
4) Even if this guy was a cop, he can't do this without losing his job. And how the hell will he know you're in Houston? It's a big city.
5) The incel paternoster.
6) Well, do you shower or take a bath very often?
7) Now how does HE know so much about how that works... :roll:
8) His last sentence.
9) Toughening people up isn't likely to help them find a relationship...girls like people who are kind to them, at least some girls do.
10) What makes this guy think that will fix everything? He's mistaken manly confidence with the juvenile braggadocio of the bully.

Marknis, the entire board is suggesting YOU! NEED! DIFFERENT! FRIENDS!


1) She’s no longer in my life. She told me this over the phone back in 2013.
2) This other ex-friend thought my head was already there.
3) My older brother told me that while he was drunk.
4) The cop happens to be my cousin and he’s always been a verbally abusive person.
5) The guy who told me this is actually married.
6) Another drunken snarl from my older brother.
7) Bullies in the Bible Belt pride themselves on being vulgar and gross.
8 ) He started stuttering himself and I pointed it out to him.
9) I forgot to add I was talking about how the bullies treated me and it was a woman who told me they were trying to “toughen” me. She was also married to a bad boy and was super religious.
10) The guy was a school bully. He actually had to go to a mental hospital for a time after trying to kill himself when his girlfriend broke up with him.