What do you would do if you caught you're kid in the act :-)

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pawelk1986
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17 Dec 2019, 10:55 am

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How would you react if you found that you're teen son or daughter is sexually active with their peers (Especially if had Asperger or ADHD)

Recently, I talked about this with my friends, a marriage in which he had a diagnosis of attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (i.e., ADHD) and she had mild autism. Asperger's Syndrome, they both graduated from college (Philosophy).

They met when they were both 15 years old, they both had so-called individual teaching, I do not know if this is the case in other countries, but in Poland children with ADHD or Autism or other psychological problems have individualized lesson plans, both have the highest marks at school and IQ probably at the level of 130 or more :-)

They helped each other at school, she checked his written work in Polish or English, because he had dyslexia and he helped her with math,

Over time, they fell in love with each other, although her parents did not like him because he was too rebellious and insolent :-)

He said that when they were 16, he asked her if she could become his girlfriend, he said that she was also his first and only sexual partner, he was ashamed that he had a small penis :-)

But she told him she loved him even with a small penis, and she loves because of his awesome personality :-)

They had to hide from her father when they f*****g :-)

Now both are in mid-30 having 3 kids one with Autism, one with ADHD and one completely normal.

Now both of them are stupid that they did so much trouble to their own parent, but in his opinion intellectually disabled youth, although in his opinion it is a misleading term because people with Asperger or ADHD are very intellectually developed, they deserve the same right to sex as adolescents and adults who are neurotypical (NT) as we call it :-)

Mine friend saying that kids should be trained in contraceptives and teach about the dangers of pornography

Although he is a staunch opponent of abortion, although he is an agnostic himself, he says that abortion can be opposed on the basis of natural law and not theology, because one day people like him, his wife, or his children or I may be deprived of the right to life, because someone will not want to take the burden of raising someone with Asperger Syndrome like his wife or ADHD like him, and that children with more serious illnesses like Down Syndrome have the right to life

Although all their children were planned, we once talked about the American film "unplanned" about abortion.


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17 Dec 2019, 5:07 pm

I’d prefer my kid to wait until he’s older, maybe at least 17 or 18. Of course, since that probably won’t happen, I want to make sure he has had a proper sex education first which would include instruction on contraceptives as well as the proper way to treat a lady (or gentleman). I think he’s straight, but I’m open to either possibility.

If a teen isn’t capable of understanding those things or hasn’t had a proper sex education, he or she shouldn’t be having sex.


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18 Dec 2019, 10:19 am

Twilightprincess wrote:
I’d prefer my kid to wait until he’s older, maybe at least 17 or 18. Of course, since that probably won’t happen, I want to make sure he has had a proper sex education first which would include instruction on contraceptives as well as the proper way to treat a lady (or gentleman). I think he’s straight, but I’m open to either possibility.

If a teen isn’t capable of understanding those things or hasn’t had a proper sex education, he or she shouldn’t be having sex.



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20 Dec 2019, 4:36 pm

My kids are both legal adults now so it is none of my business. I've made sure they know about contraception and consent and completely understand the importance of both.

If they had been active younger and I had become aware of it I think my focus would be on making absolutely sure both were in full consent, following all laws, and that they were using appropriate measures to prevent pregnancy. Doing too much more will backfire. If you didn't impart your values in a way that they will want to follow them before they reach 13 or 14, it isn't going to happen by strong arming them at 15 or 16.

Fortunately, my kids understood that becoming active at a young age would not do them any favors, and so weren't. I honestly don't know for sure if they are active now or not; they are adults.


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