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atypical_goldfish
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25 Mar 2020, 5:46 pm

Greetings,
I was officially diagnosed with mild autism when I was 14/15 years old and since then I've had to teach myself the appropriate social cues,independence,etc. But one thing I still feel bad about is asking for emotional support when I need it. For instance,I'll be freaking out about something and my wife will gratefully distract me from my anxiety when I'm about to have a melt down. But at the same time,I feel bad asking for support cause I feel like now that I'm an adult,I should be able to handle my emotions on my own. Anyone else feel that way?
thanks



FletcherArrow
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26 Mar 2020, 11:03 am

atypical_goldfish wrote:
Greetings,
I was officially diagnosed with mild autism when I was 14/15 years old and since then I've had to teach myself the appropriate social cues,independence,etc. But one thing I still feel bad about is asking for emotional support when I need it. For instance,I'll be freaking out about something and my wife will gratefully distract me from my anxiety when I'm about to have a melt down. But at the same time,I feel bad asking for support cause I feel like now that I'm an adult,I should be able to handle my emotions on my own. Anyone else feel that way?
thanks


Explain to her, when you are not melting down, what you expect from her when you are melting down so she knows what to do. Then ask her how you can recognize when she needs support from you and ask her how she would like you to respond. That gives you a set of rules to follow and for her to follow in that moment of crisis.



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26 Mar 2020, 11:08 am

In general, men are lucky to get any emotional support. We are expected to be fearless and competent. Wise wives help us process feelings we can't even articulate, while others force us into more denial.