Saw another guy harassing his girlfriend

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24 Apr 2020, 10:25 pm

I had to go to a gas station for a drink twice because I accidentally spilled mine the first time. When I went to get a refill, a couple we’re at the fountain. The guy was getting drinks filled while his girlfriend sat on the counter. The guy was also coming on to his girlfriend while she snarled at him to stop and lightly pushed him but he persisted and she let him commit PDA on her.

I keep seeing incidents like this and it just completely baffles me why some guys do this crap and why some women welcome it. I was always told to be a gentleman around women and PDA was bad behavior yet I keep seeing guys act like jerks with their girlfriends and PDA is a constant sight in my social observations. Sure, these people were rather young looking (both also had their hair dyed red) and it may have been a reflection of immaturity but it still boggles my mind.



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25 Apr 2020, 11:38 am

Does that mean he groped her? If so that's terrible.



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25 Apr 2020, 12:53 pm

Sarahsmith wrote:
Does that mean he groped her? If so that's terrible.


He did as well as kissed her despite her telling him to not to.



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25 Apr 2020, 4:26 pm

omg!!



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26 Apr 2020, 8:44 pm

I honestly felt my head get hot witnessing this spectacle. It was exasperating seeing another “jerk” with a girlfriend and they weren’t being considerate to other patrons.



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30 Apr 2020, 10:45 am

Sarahsmith wrote:
omg!!


Does this happen where you live in Canada?



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30 Apr 2020, 12:50 pm

I think so. It has happened to me.



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30 Apr 2020, 1:24 pm

Did any of the employees do anything about it?


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01 May 2020, 9:09 am

If I asked the guys that groped me to stop, they probably would have. One guy that I was going out with groped me and I got mad at him and he didn't do it again. When we had a course on sexual assault at our school the other guy learned that what he was doing was wrong. I have also been pushed into having sex by two different guys which is getting close to rape. There has also been some other cases where I would ask the guys to leave me alone and they wouldn't. I don't think it matters where you live if you are a woman. If you are born female, you are going to have to deal with creeps.

It's nice to have some men that look down on the bad behavior of other men.



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01 May 2020, 10:29 am

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Did any of the employees do anything about it?


No, they didn’t do anything since they didn’t see it happen. I don’t know if they would’ve done anything since that sort of behavior is seen as “guys will be guys” and it is sad.

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If I asked the guys that groped me to stop, they probably would have. One guy that I was going out with groped me and I got mad at him and he didn't do it again. When we had a course on sexual assault at our school the other guy learned that what he was doing was wrong. I have also been pushed into having sex by two different guys which is getting close to rape. There has also been some other cases where I would ask the guys to leave me alone and they wouldn't. I don't think it matters where you live if you are a woman. If you are born female, you are going to have to deal with creeps.

It's nice to have some men that look down on the bad behavior of other men.


I don’t do that sort of behavior but I still get the creep label.



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01 May 2020, 11:05 am

Did he see you? If so, sometimes in couples, the guy or the girl will see another person, who had no interest in their mate, they get jealous.

There has been a few times where I have had other women see me by myself and they will start badmouthing me by telling them how ugly I am. Other times, they get pouty.



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01 May 2020, 11:41 am

Summer_Twilight wrote:
Did he see you? If so, sometimes in couples, the guy or the girl will see another person, who had no interest in their mate, they get jealous.

There has been a few times where I have had other women see me by myself and they will start badmouthing me by telling them how ugly I am. Other times, they get pouty.


He did. He moved his and the girlfriend’s drinks away from the fountain but that didn’t stop him from coming onto her.

That’s horrible you get bullied like that. Do you confront them?



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01 May 2020, 2:42 pm

Basically, it's none of our business* - adult women are adults.

And for those who stick to sh***y men, they deserve those sh***y men.


* (unless something criminal is happening, like rape or outrageous sexual harassing, but in your case it seems like some phony dom-sub pda play)



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05 May 2020, 3:15 pm

Seeing incidents like what happened recently also further tells me being nice isn’t appreciated where I live.



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05 May 2020, 3:31 pm

It doesn’t mean you have to be a jerk.

It takes strength not to be a jerk.



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05 May 2020, 3:48 pm

I’m turning 32, though, and I am still no different than I was when I was 17. I was told I was going to create self-fulfilling prophecies for myself but I didn’t know how to avoid making them happen.