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15 May 2020, 1:51 am
I can only speak for myself, but when I did it it was to see if there were any aspects of a previous relationship that she liked and perhaps missed. Say a previous boyfriend used to give her massages; I could learn to give massages. Little things like that.
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15 May 2020, 6:01 am
They want to know if you're divorced, which would suggest you might have financial trouble. Even if you haven't been married they want to know if you are single and if you've had long relationships or short relationships in the past. That helps them guess whether you have been sexually active and whether you'd be interested in a hookup instead of a longer commitment.
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15 May 2020, 6:03 am
IsabellaLinton wrote:
They want to know if you're divorced, which would suggest you might have financial trouble. Even if you haven't been married they want to know if you are single and if you've had long relationships or short relationships in the past. That helps them guess whether you have been sexually active and whether you'd be interested in a hookup instead of a longer commitment.
Also a person's strengths and weaknesses in a relationship--whether they can communicate well and resolve differences, or cycle through the same problematic cohabitations.
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15 May 2020, 9:18 am
It helps to know if she is completely over the past relationship or not. If she hates him with all her heart, mind and soul, it is just as bad as if she still loves him and wishes they could get back together. Either way, she's still thinking more about her ex than she's thinking about you.
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16 May 2020, 1:27 am
Fnord wrote:
It helps to know if she is completely over the past relationship or not. If she hates him with all her heart, mind and soul, it is just as bad as if she still loves him and wishes they could get back together. Either way, she's still thinking more about her ex than she's thinking about you.
good points
i (fortunately) never ended up dating her but i can remember all the times, hanging out with my LO, half of our conversations would revolve around how angry she was at her exes and how awful they were. at the time i was still head over heels with his chick but even then i felt uneasy that she was still obviously thinking of them 24/7
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16 May 2020, 5:57 pm
Kitty4670 wrote:
I always thought guys don’t want to hear about women old relationships like on a real date.
I think it's a matter of people don't want to hear long, unrequested monologues on previous relationships, but generally people do have at least a degree of curiosity about how things have gone previously.
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Joined: 6 May 2008 Age: 67 Gender: Male Posts: 59,890 Location: Stendec
16 May 2020, 6:59 pm
Kitty4670 wrote:
I always thought guys don’t want to hear about women old relationships like on a real date.
We would rather not know about them; but if we do know, then we would also rather know that you aren't obsessed about them, and we would especially like to know if you've murdered them ... or simply want to...
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17 May 2020, 2:26 am
Also, I think that noting how someone accounts for the failure of past relationships may be a factor: could be used as a foreshadowing of how a potential partner will handle problems in future relationships.
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18 May 2020, 12:16 am
Fnord wrote:
Kitty4670 wrote:
I always thought guys don’t want to hear about women old relationships like on a real date.
We would rather not know about them; but if we do know, then we would also rather know that you aren't obsessed about them, and we would especially like to know if you've murdered them ... or simply want to...
A bit of psychopathic/sociopathic spice, in a relationship, could make things "interesting".
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