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Jamesy
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22 May 2020, 11:01 am

I am 30 years old autistic and don’t want to work. So basically I live of and take advantage of my parents who support me. That said I do have a history of mental illness as well.

Here’s my employment history
Left college in 2010
Unemployed between 2010-2014
Worked for 6 months between 2014-2015
Unemployed between 2015-2019
Worked for 2 weeks in 2019
2020 currently unemployed


More to the point of this thread though is I find whenever I go to places of employment the people who work there are rude to me and I am quickly fired.

If you could guess why are employers rude to me?



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22 May 2020, 1:05 pm

Jamesy wrote:
If you could guess why are employers rude to me?
These are more than just just guesses, and could apply to anyone who is dismissed after a short time on the job:

1. The person is dishonest. Lying and stealing are sure ways to get fired.

2. The person is chronically absent or tardy. Accounting for lost time takes more effort than accounting for a regular 8-hour shift.

3. The person does not perform to the expectations of the job. "Good enough" is never really good enough.

4. The person has a "bad attitude". This covers a lot of ground, and includes being surly, argumentative, talkative, sullen, inattentive, and just plain "not fitting in" with the rest of the employees.

I say this all from the perspective of a person who has hired and fired many people over many decades.


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22 May 2020, 1:24 pm

I know I fell foul of both reason 3 and 4 for most of my twenties: but without knowing specifics about each instance can’t know why in the OP’s case.



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22 May 2020, 1:58 pm

Karamazov wrote:
I know I fell foul of both reason 3 and 4 for most of my twenties: but without knowing specifics about each instance can’t know why in the OP’s case.
We're only going to read the OP's side of the story, anyway. So that's why speaking in general terms is probably best.

It's sad how most employers insist on "At Will" hiring -- they don't have to tell employees why they're being sacked, only that they are being sacked.


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22 May 2020, 4:33 pm

Fnord wrote:
Karamazov wrote:
I know I fell foul of both reason 3 and 4 for most of my twenties: but without knowing specifics about each instance can’t know why in the OP’s case.
We're only going to read the OP's side of the story, anyway. So that's why speaking in general terms is probably best.

It's sad how most employers insist on "At Will" hiring -- they don't have to tell employees why they're being sacked, only that they are being sacked.

Ah: The one time it happened I was told exactly why I was being sacked, loudly & forcibly at great length.
Oh well :shrug:
Got to learn somehow :D



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23 May 2020, 7:02 pm

Last summer, I worked at my local supermarket. I only stayed there for two weeks. I worked in the produce department stocking items in the department. One time, a customer asked me a question I didn't know the answer to. He (the customer) asked if he could buy an entire crate of corn with about 40 something ears a container. I asked one of the other workers in the produce department. He looked at me and spoke to me like it was the dumbest question I ever asked him. He basically told me to get off his back.

I suppose I could look at being fired from there as a blessing because it was clearly an unpleasant place to work anyways.


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23 May 2020, 8:17 pm

Your post does not contain enough information to answer the question

Strangers on the internet are not telepathic

Not everyone defines "rude" the same way

Your bosses might not have thought that they were rude to you

Your bosses might have thought that you were rude to them

Without a video tape, not enough information