Am I the only one who has such sad life?

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20 Aug 2020, 3:01 pm

I have very sad life but I stay strong and have survived(didn't commit suicide). I always have been introverted and I have gotten used to it. I don't have any real friends in my life. I go out alone every time because no one wants to go out with me.

I am already 21 and I have never kissed a girl, never dated and never had sex because I can't find a single girl that feels right for me.

I have difficulty communicating with people . The only people I haven't been close in my life and didn't turn out to be false friends were 2 or 3 and from my class but they are now away. Everyone else turned out to be false friend and even betrayed me. That's probably because they were used to my personality because we were together in one class for 4 years.

I have chronic depression, anxiety, obsessive thoughts, and constipation and I can't find solution for those problems and they keep ruining my life.

I am passionate researcher who loves science. I've made many scientific discoveries. People don't believe me and call me bro-scientist but they are true and they work. And one of them is that If you have some kind of trauma If you massage it for 10 minutes every day for a week it will fully recover. I cured my acid reflux this way. I started massaging my diaphragm and stomach muscles and it went away. I am about to cure my itchy ears this way. I massage them. The next discovery is that a mixture of raw eggs and vinegar cures dandruff but doesn't cures itchy scalp. Gives only improvement. I am testing scalp massages now for cure. I have other discoveries but I won't share them because this post will be long.

It's not a joke. My life is really that sad.



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20 Aug 2020, 3:03 pm

Your story is a common one on this website.  Welcome aboard.


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20 Aug 2020, 3:13 pm

Welcome to WP Mitko, I hope you will settle in quickly and feel at home.


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20 Aug 2020, 5:14 pm

First of all, welcome to Wrong Planet.

Secondly, I don't believe for a second that your life is sad. You have said so yourself that you have made many scientific discoveries. Wow, that is awesome! If you keep that up, you might make a career out of it one day. You sound very intelligent. That is cool. Not sad.

And you're only 21, so you've still got your whole life ahead of you. Not everyone has their life together yet at your age. Hang in there. You're great.

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20 Aug 2020, 5:24 pm

Mitko wrote:
I have very sad life but I stay strong and have survived(didn't commit suicide). I always have been introverted and I have gotten used to it. I don't have any real friends in my life. I go out alone every time because no one wants to go out with me.

I am already 21 and I have never kissed a girl, never dated and never had sex because I can't find a single girl that feels right for me.

I have difficulty communicating with people . The only people I haven't been close in my life and didn't turn out to be false friends were 2 or 3 and from my class but they are now away. Everyone else turned out to be false friend and even betrayed me. That's probably because they were used to my personality because we were together in one class for 4 years.

I have chronic depression, anxiety, obsessive thoughts, and....


I was literally reading my own life up to that point. Exact details at that age 8O (except I met my friends in college so only 3 years).

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20 Aug 2020, 5:42 pm

I quit science for a few years to make friends. They were boring.



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20 Aug 2020, 5:45 pm

Feyokien wrote:
Mitko wrote:
I have very sad life but I stay strong and have survived(didn't commit suicide). I always have been introverted and I have gotten used to it. I don't have any real friends in my life. I go out alone every time because no one wants to go out with me.

I am already 21 and I have never kissed a girl, never dated and never had sex because I can't find a single girl that feels right for me.

I have difficulty communicating with people . The only people I haven't been close in my life and didn't turn out to be false friends were 2 or 3 and from my class but they are now away. Everyone else turned out to be false friend and even betrayed me. That's probably because they were used to my personality because we were together in one class for 4 years.

I have chronic depression, anxiety, obsessive thoughts, and....


I was literally reading my own life up to that point. Exact details at that age 8O (except I met my friends in college so only 3 years).

Welcome!


Same here - except "girl" would probably be changed to "guy" for me, though I've never kissed anyone outside of family of any gender, so it doesn't really matter.


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20 Aug 2020, 6:38 pm

Mitko wrote:
I have very sad life but I stay strong and have survived(didn't commit suicide). I always have been introverted and I have gotten used to it. I don't have any real friends in my life. I go out alone every time because no one wants to go out with me.

I am already 21 and I have never kissed a girl, never dated and never had sex because I can't find a single girl that feels right for me.

I have difficulty communicating with people . The only people I haven't been close in my life and didn't turn out to be false friends were 2 or 3 and from my class but they are now away. Everyone else turned out to be false friend and even betrayed me. That's probably because they were used to my personality because we were together in one class for 4 years.

I have chronic depression, anxiety, obsessive thoughts, and constipation and I can't find solution for those problems and they keep ruining my life.

I am passionate researcher who loves science. I've made many scientific discoveries. People don't believe me and call me bro-scientist but they are true and they work. And one of them is that If you have some kind of trauma If you massage it for 10 minutes every day for a week it will fully recover. I cured my acid reflux this way. I started massaging my diaphragm and stomach muscles and it went away. I am about to cure my itchy ears this way. I massage them. The next discovery is that a mixture of raw eggs and vinegar cures dandruff but doesn't cures itchy scalp. Gives only improvement. I am testing scalp massages now for cure. I have other discoveries but I won't share them because this post will be long.

It's not a joke. My life is really that sad.

Your life could definitely be worse. instead of reflecting on the things you don't have you should refelct on the things you do have. don't dwell on your shortcomings celebrate your victories.


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20 Aug 2020, 7:31 pm

^^ Aye, it is sad having no relationships, but having them can also be hellish.



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21 Aug 2020, 12:53 am

Dear_one wrote:
^^ Aye, it is sad having no relationships, but having them can also be hellish.

Who was this supposed to be in response to?


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21 Aug 2020, 2:18 am

Mitko wrote:
I have very sad life but I stay strong and have survived(didn't commit suicide). I always have been introverted and I have gotten used to it. I don't have any real friends in my life. I go out alone every time because no one wants to go out with me.

I am already 21 and I have never kissed a girl, never dated and never had sex because I can't find a single girl that feels right for me.

I have difficulty communicating with people . The only people I haven't been close in my life and didn't turn out to be false friends were 2 or 3 and from my class but they are now away. Everyone else turned out to be false friend and even betrayed me. That's probably because they were used to my personality because we were together in one class for 4 years.

I have chronic depression, anxiety, obsessive thoughts, and constipation and I can't find solution for those problems and they keep ruining my life.

I am passionate researcher who loves science. I've made many scientific discoveries. People don't believe me and call me bro-scientist but they are true and they work. And one of them is that If you have some kind of trauma If you massage it for 10 minutes every day for a week it will fully recover. I cured my acid reflux this way. I started massaging my diaphragm and stomach muscles and it went away. I am about to cure my itchy ears this way. I massage them. The next discovery is that a mixture of raw eggs and vinegar cures dandruff but doesn't cures itchy scalp. Gives only improvement. I am testing scalp massages now for cure. I have other discoveries but I won't share them because this post will be long.

It's not a joke. My life is really that sad.


I had my first kiss at 21 or 22.. then a few more kisses and now I am 33.. did not really have sex fully, but got near to it a few times.. each time girls blocked me and wanted nothing to do with me after a few days..

What worked for me was dressing up and going to events such as social dance lessons or meet up groups.. women sometimes would seek me out due to my looks.. I would say 'Hello, where are you from?' when appropriate to a few people, and some of them were women who hinted at dates afterward and that's how I got them.

If you dress up and go to events, yes you may get a kiss and perhaps have sex a few times. But only and mostly until you in your late twenties, because people around you will become less into dating like that.



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21 Aug 2020, 5:13 am

The solar system contains seven billion population

Life circumstances sometimes change. For example, some defendants get framed and sent to jail. Diseases, injuries, financial situation



Not everyone defines and measures sadness the same way

There are five emotions and sad is just one of them



Many other posts reference depression, anxiety, obsessive compulsive disorder, construction

If you think you invented something, apply to the Patent Office. If you tell someone about your invention, they might plagiarize



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21 Aug 2020, 6:09 am

Pieplup wrote:
Dear_one wrote:
^^ Aye, it is sad having no relationships, but having them can also be hellish.

Who was this supposed to be in response to?


I thought of this as an addendum to your post, clarifying that what one does not have is sometimes not worth having.

Re: patents. Those are a rich man's game. On average, it takes $14,000,000 in annual sales to support the legal work to defend one patent. Most companies will budget ten times as much to break a patent rather than pay royalties. Only a tiny percentage ever pay off - overall, the odds are much worse than the lottery. When I first got called an inventor (I prefer designer) I went to see a patent lawyer, and paid for a patent search. It only turned up half of the patents I already knew about, so paying to proceed on that basis would have been a total waste of my money. Lawyers should be sued. James Lancaster advises publishing everything, and then accepting a salary to shut up. I even knew a patent lawyer so stupid that he believed in his product - he discovered one configuration that had been missed during a rush to patent a new field, and blew $4mil, his whole fortune, on realizing why nobody else had bothered with it.



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21 Aug 2020, 11:00 am

Mitko - Welcome to WP. You are still relatively young yet in the big scheme of things. My story is much like yours except add 25+ years (and a doctoral degree). I gave up on going out to bars/clubs years ago, as I cannot drink alcohol. I can count my trusted friends on one hand. My lifelong quest is for advanced knowledge that one cannot find easily. You will likely see that you will reach a point in time where being alone becomes second nature. Spend your time with your true pursuits and it will no longer bother you as much. Sometimes you have to create your own happiness.



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22 Aug 2020, 12:17 am

Dear_one wrote:
Pieplup wrote:
Dear_one wrote:
^^ Aye, it is sad having no relationships, but having them can also be hellish.

Who was this supposed to be in response to?


I thought of this as an addendum to your post, clarifying that what one does not have is sometimes not worth having.

Re: patents. Those are a rich man's game. On average, it takes $14,000,000 in annual sales to support the legal work to defend one patent. Most companies will budget ten times as much to break a patent rather than pay royalties. Only a tiny percentage ever pay off - overall, the odds are much worse than the lottery. When I first got called an inventor (I prefer designer) I went to see a patent lawyer, and paid for a patent search. It only turned up half of the patents I already knew about, so paying to proceed on that basis would have been a total waste of my money. Lawyers should be sued. James Lancaster advises publishing everything, and then accepting a salary to shut up. I even knew a patent lawyer so stupid that he believed in his product - he discovered one configuration that had been missed during a rush to patent a new field, and blew $4mil, his whole fortune, on realizing why nobody else had bothered with it.

That is true people often lust for what they don't have instead of just enjoying what they do have.


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