This may be a little too "new-agey" for some, but I've been taught that we attract what we focus on, whether it's something we want, or something we don't want. If we focus all the time on the things we don't want or are worried about happening, those things tend to happen, but if we pay attention to the things we do want, we attract those instead. Maybe instead of worrying all the time, you can get into the practice of imagining the best case scenario of a situation. Have a plan for what to do if things go badly, but once you've made your plan, just let it be, and put your energy into focusing on what you'd really like the outcome to be.
This has worked really well for me in the past. The average wait time in my state for receiving government benefits is two years, but I didn't know that at the time when I was applying. I just kept thinking about what a relief it would be when they finally came through, and lo and behold, four months after my initial application, I was approved.
The same thing happened just recently with my service dog. I was put on a two to three year wait list to receive a dog, but because I kept focusing my energy on how great it would be if the dog came sooner, it was seven months after I finished the application that I received a call saying the program had a dog for me.
It's not easy, it takes a lot of practice and self-compassion not to beat yourself up every time you slip back into negative thinking, but I really believe that by focusing on the things you want, and the outcomes you want to see, you can "manifest" these things into being, and lead a more positive life as a result.
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"Survival is insufficient" - Seven of Nine
Diagnosed with ASD level 1 on the 10th of April, 2014
Rediagnosed with ASD level 2 on the 4th of May, 2019
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