common childhood fantasy?

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Suppose a child (6 or 7, give or take a year) did not intentionally have a hard time with what is called social interaction, but they seemed to nonetheless. The child always had a leaning towards playing contentedly alone - playing all the parts of a scenario - and they discovered the beauty and power of music early on, began pretending they were the musicians. Learning about the musicians. Most of their waking thought focused on the fantasy of being able to play a certain song or music for people.
Now... a 'normal' child? This would not be unusual? The child may grow into adolescence and teenage and so on with a normal interest in music, maybe even learn to play something yet retain healthy normal 'social interaction' (not have many problems getting a band together and getting gigs)?
If a child was on the Spectrum? Could it be that they unknowingly stumble onto the truth that if they can't communicate or interact as others, that they can do so with the gift of music?
Does this make sense?
It was just the other day that I concluded I was NOT Autistic at all, just an NT who happened to exist on the psychic fringes of the NT world.
I'd forgot about this Asperger's business.
Then something happened today that clicked on the lights again.

That makes sense. I liked to play NASCAR driver when I was three (spot the redneck ), I also liked the idea of being a muscician. I even tried to make a career out of it . At about 6-7, I daydreamed alot about someday beng able to create new technologies to carry out my interests that woulod have been considered science fiction in 1988-89, such as a (crude) desktop computer that could simulate all aspects of the mechanical function of an objest simultaneously, getting to pilot an SR-71, private space travel (just up to orbit), and a laser gun.

What happened?

So you are not Autistic. Oh dear. But I used to want to form my own band and I still do.

Not sure. I don't believe it is normal at that age to not be socially geared/focused.

Around that age, I preferred to play by myself, building towers out of blocks or drawing pictures or painting or looking for insects in the garden.

I wasn't very interested in other children. If they wanted to play with me, I'd play for a while and then lose interest and wander off.

I wonder if that is normal or not.

My main fantasy as a child was to be able to fly.

I asked myself why this was.
Why the need to share and be understood felt so strong but so difficult, more difficult than so many others seemed to experience.

yep - sounds like me. although i did play with others (and as an adult), i was and am always the "guest star", rather than one of the group.

Last edited by vetivert on 07 Dec 2005, 4:13 am, edited 1 time in total.

At that age, I wanted to be a Meterologist.

I always played with Legos and my viedogames as a child. I had a few friends too, I was much more social as a child now that I think about it. I wanted to be a basketball player, rofl...I'm built like a football player and suck at basketball. Oh well. Legos have been one of my few obsessions in life.

My NT sister played with Barbie dolls and dress-up clothes with all the little neighbor girls.

When I was a kid, I drew elaborate floor plans on 1/4" graph paper and then built and furnished those homes out of Legos.

Oh, did I write that in the past tense?

...recently finished building (and furnishing) a 10 room, 2 full bath, 74x30 Lego ranch home with a deck out the back...

Anybody obey with but the greatest reluctance when you were told to 'go and play' with other kids?

I had GI Joe's, Cindy, but I preferred to play by myself.

I always felt like people thought I had no thoughts of my own, so they felt they could tell me what to do and reacted with surprise when I resisted, which was almost always (at least from what I remember and what I am told).

A better thread topic for this would have been a simple relating of childhood memories and how they connect or do not connect with asperger's whether suspected or diagnosed.

A woman after my own heart! Much to the teachers' bewilderment, I used to sit in class designing endless floor plans and transcribing them onto graph paper. Then I'd go home and build them in 3D on the computer - or create and furnish multi-level Lego mansions. When I was 11 I won a local lego contest with a scale model of my own house.

My mother still has all the Lego around somewhere... all carefully organized by color and shape. I'd talk her into unpacking it, but I think it would prove a rather dangerous distraction...

Um, yeah, that house I built did consume a good deal of my time recently.

Congrats on the Lego championship!

I never got into Legos, maybe because my spatial skills aren't good at all. I was always more obsessed with collections and wandering out in the woods.