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What are some of you and your wife's favourite sci-fi movies/series?

Hey, I like to be straightforward so before you go on to read my post keep in mind I'm not officially diagnosed and therefore may not actually be on the spectrum.

Being obsessed with my facial features, and to some degree, symmetry, in a very negative way, was a phase I also went through, I believe when I was 25, and in university. It started with a preoccupation as to the position of my eyes (being "too far apart, and not symmetrical) and instead of completing my university readings and assignments I went into a spiral trying to learn about the "meaning" of this odd positioning, and then trying to research as to whether or not it would be possible to re-arrange my skull. I felt deeply unhappy about my appearance and this led to obsessively looking in the mirror, often the rear-view mirror when driving instead of on the road as well. I just couldn't stop thinking about it. What happened was, when I finally concluded that there was nothing I could do, what followed were further obsessive insecurities about other aspects of my appearance: the length of my neck, the shape of my lips, and the shape of my skull as a whole. Through each of these, the same process was followed: I obsessively researched the possibilities of altering or compensating for each feature. Somehow, through obsessive research, some degree of peace was made. Ultimately, there isn't anything I can do about these things, but knowing that didn't help, I had to exhaust every piece of bizarre information I could find on the topic online. I went into a serious obsession with commercial DNA testing which lasted years (and still continues, but is much less prominent) and this gave me something about myself which I could obsess over to replace my fixation on physical appearance.. I think this was part of getting over it as well. I will tell you that this still lingers in me today, and every now and then I have a day where my lips, eyes, neck, or head shapes really bother me, but, I am mostly over it, and am fortunate to now have very prominent and pressing issues in my life that take my attention away whether I like it or not (raising a child.) The most tangible of the solutions, cosmetic surgery for the lips, still finds its way into my Google searches now and then, but I'm pretty practiced at shutting this down as it's around seven years after these thoughts began troubling me.
So, I do not know if this is similar to what you are experiencing, but in case it is, I decided to share this with you.

Regarding unemployment: A huge struggle in my life has been finding decent employment. From age 16 to age 30, I worked horrible minimum-wage customer service jobs where I suffered what could be considered abuse by the general public. The only time I ever got jobs was when I had some kind of connection within that job (although, I think this is pretty typical.) I knew all kinds of people who just seemed to find themselves in decent paying, respectable jobs as if by accident. In a relatively recent period of unemployment, I took a software course, and due to the fact that my favorite hobby for most of my life was PC gaming, I stood out in the class, and someone from a local business gave me a chance and hired me. Upon being hired for what was at first a simple job, my abilities to type quickly, use computers, and to write using formal English got me a promotion and my first "real grown-up" job. It turned out I had a lot of employable skills the whole time, but my absolutely atrocious verbal communication abilities held me back from getting anyone to give me a chance until I was in a situation where I really, really stood out.
The point of this story is that I believe it's better to be unemployed and perusing your interests and skills than it is to be thrown into a series of sh***y jobs. Self-esteem is really difficult to cultivate and I think entry level jobs where one is forced to deal with the general public is going to make you think you're less capable than you are. This is the first time in my life where I can remember believing that I may not be a complete idiot. So, if you don't have to get employment to survive, don't do it unless you can get something where some of your talents/skills/interests/capabilities can come into play. Maybe this isn't relevant advice for you, but I'm writing it out on the off-chance that it is. Just ignore it if not!

Regardless as to if this was relevant or even remotely helpful, I want to wish you "good luck!"

Welcome friend. Fellow sci fi fan here! I mainly read books in the genre - try the Culture novels by Iain M Banks. They're really good.
I play video games too, though I prefer consoles, mostly Nintendo ones.