Women not getting involved anymore?

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When I was 17 in college some girls would approach me and want to get involved with me etc....

I remember when I was 25 and had a full time job no women wanted to be involved with me and I was never really approached by women in the workplace etc.....

Has any other guy had the same experiences when transitioning from your late teens to mid twenties?

I'm a woman and I've noticed the same pattern with men. I think it's just that most people prefer partners the same age as them, and people pairing off means the dating pool narrows as you get older.

Well I'd say younger people of all types are more willing to go out on a limb and try something new. So at 17 you'd get college girls asking you out. But at 25 perhaps people have more things on their plate and are less likely to risk their time for something that may not pan out. There is also the fact that lots of people go to college to have a good time, and so will act accordingly, and then when they leave college, many will consider that behaviour a bit 'behind them' or will at least tone it down, which would result in less girls taking a risk on you. And also, perhaps you display behaviour that will seem slightly weird, which may be acceptable at age 17, given your youth, but by age 25 it may have been expected that you would have grown out of that behaviour by then which would reduce female interest, but I do not know you in real life so this point may be moot.

And also shagging in the workplace is kinda frowned upon. Many people don't like to do that because it can lead to big problems down the road.

And also about your grandparents, they lived in a different time to you or I. I'm going to assume your grandparents got married in the 50's/60's perhaps, I am not sure you can make the comparison between dating in their age to modern dating as bluntly as you have done.

Traditionally men pursue and women choose. I think some are still like that. As a women I wait to be pursued personally then ask a man out.

When you're 17, there's no expectation that you have a fancy job or a ton of money. And if your parents are doing well financially that will carry you in the perception of girls your age.
But once you're old enough to be in the work force, you're being judged based on your position and net worth.

People do from what I see find relationships at various ages.

I am 27 and I think I do ok. But I have chosen to be careful of who I involve myself with closely. Especially romantically.

I think we can always find someone. But sometimes we might not have a ton of offers.

In December 2006 at college closing time this girl in one of my classes approached me and wanted to walk with me to the train station. I think she really liked me and if I wasn’t so picky maybe a friendship could have blossomed then led to romance.

Saw her for the first time in 8 years in 2015 walking with one of her friends in town. She walked past me and but did not stop to talk to me.


From what I understand she has been married since 2014.

When I was in my teens, boys were considered "dateable" if they played sports and beat up on weaker kids.

When I was in my twenties, the standards included having a steady full-time job and a place of your own.

When I was in my thirties, the standards included having a supervisory job and owning your own home.

When I was in my forties, the standards included having a leadership job and not having a prison record.

When I was in my fifties, the standards included having a retirement plan and not having your children living with you.

Now I am in my sixties, and the standards include having all of your hair and teeth, and not being dependent on oxygen tanks.

Through all of this, being able to afford reliable private transportation and having "money to burn" were definite pluses.