I wonder how many people with ASD, managed to find love?
I wonder how many people with ASD managed to find sexual partners/love despite ASD?
I wonder how many people born with Asperger's managed to find their love/sexual partner regardless gay on straight.
Fun fact I heard at least on history who dating a girl who was on spectrum against her parents wishes only to be diagnosed with ASD later one, he was diagnosed with ADHD but not ASD only later they found that he had Asperger's too
I also wonder how many people with ASD have a partner who is either autistic too or have another type of neurodiversity?
And if so does is help in your relationship or au contraire?
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My partner and I have been together since 2012. Both of us being on the autism spectrum, and knowing what that means, helps us understand each other.
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I've had a few relationships.... only a couple of those have been remotely healthy
Did I love them? Yeah, I believe at the time, I did.
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Boyfriend 1: Mid 1980s to mid 1990s: Very controlling, likely not ASD (Love - NO)
Boyfriend 2: Mid 1990s: Alcoholic, addict, abusive, sociopath, bankrupt, unemployed, homeless, deviant, stole from me, likely not ASD (Love - NO)
Boyfriend 3: 1998 - 2002: Alcoholic - Probable ASD, ADHD, Paranoia, very superstitious, transgendered (Love - Yes, but more like friends)
(17 years being single)
Boyfriend 4: Late 2019 - Present: Acute PTSD and grief. He doesn't think like an NT. (Love - I think so)
Also I don't have Aspergers. I'm ASD Level 2. Your question seems to only be about Aspergers?
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It would be extremely hard to have remotely accurate statistics on this when there is currently LOTS of confusion about autism even amongst mental health professionals. For example autism is diagnosed 4x more in women than men & some believe that the percentage ratio of autistic women to autistic men are more evenly splint but autistic women are much more likely to miss being diagnosed with autism due to the belief that autism is more common in men &/or because autism presents differently in men than in women. We cant really have statistics on autistics in relationships when there is debate about who is autistic & who is not. We can really only talk about our own personal experiences on this.
I've had 3 romantic relationships but I have various mental & physical things that limit me besides autism & in some ways I'm kinda opposite of the stereotypical autistic when it comes to romantic relationships. My 1st girlfriend was NT but had bad ADHD, dyslexia, & a little OCD & I have those things as well which is why we we connected so well. My 2nd was on the spectrum & my current one is as well or at least my current has lots of overlapping issues but she has various things besides autism too. I do love all 3. I think one of the major issues in my 2nd relationship is that she was more like the stereotypical autistic with wanting a bit of space & alone time as well as desiring her independence whereas I'm very needy & clingy & dependent within romantic relationships. My current girlfriend is more like me when it comes to that so we get along a lot better in some ways. I've had no luck with getting in romantic relationships with anyone else thou despite trying desperately for 8 years between my 1st & 2nd relationship.
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Both my partner and I are aspies and we happened to find each other.
I've only been in three relationships in my life (all long distance) and all three seemed to be ASD men. I've found the secret is learning who the person is first, rather than jumping into things. When you find someone who clicks with you, it just works, most times despite any awkward behavior you might have.
My parents have been together since they were 12 so 47 years. My dad 8s on the spectrum.
I've had my first serious boyfriend at 9-16 although we did break up a few times and I did date other people whilst not together. We broke up as my parents had to relocate.
I know what I like and I set a high standard as well as being clingy so it's more or less impossible now
I feel like for people with autism, they may benefit from looking for love in unconventional/unorthodox methods, or dating someone who is similar to them in terms of looks/personality. The fat overweight nerd who's socially awkward and plays video games all day PROBABLY isn't going to date the super hot, super fit, and extroverted sorority blonde. It's just simply not a good fit.
As for unconventional methods, perhaps try long-distance online dating, perhaps with a girl from a different country or some niche website such as autistic singles, etc... I know long-distance isn't ideal but if you're 25+ and still a virgin, then most likely what you're doing now isn't clearly working, so going 6 months before having sex with a girl you met online isn't going to be that big of a deal anyways.
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As for unconventional methods, perhaps try long-distance online dating, perhaps with a girl from a different country or some niche website such as autistic singles, etc... I know long-distance isn't ideal but if you're 25+ and still a virgin, then most likely what you're doing now isn't clearly working, so going 6 months before having sex with a girl you met online isn't going to be that big of a deal anyways.
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I watched a doco on something similar.
It's called love on the spectrum.
This kinda thing does exist.. it eludes me. FML!
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