Well it's not easy to have a discussion about the topic because it seems people have different definitions of "empathy." This is what dictionary.com says:
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the psychological identification with or vicarious experiencing of the feelings, thoughts, or attitudes of another.
the imaginative ascribing to an object, as a natural object or work of art, feelings or attitudes present in oneself:
Feeling other people's emotions is what I was thinking of. That can actually be a negative thing if you start feeling other people's unpleasant emotions. Considering all the miserable people in the world, I'm glad I don't have much of that kind of empathy.
As for "the psychological identification" with other people...well if autistic people have atypical neurology, it seems normal for autistic people to have difficulty empathizing with certain emotions or certain people. It's not easy to identify with a foreign psychological experience.
Also, if you are identifying with another person, that implies that your own experience is connected to that person's experience. So you would not want to harm that person (because you'd experience the harm as well). So I don't agree that empathy can be used to harm people; I don't agree that empathy means simply "knowing what other people are experiencing." It's more than that, a deeper connection.
Honestly, I'm sure that some people just assume lack of empathy because autistic people don't show typical signs of empathy. Normies even assume you're not listening just because you aren't looking at them. They try to read autistic people like they read non-autistic people, and it doesn't always work because autistic people have different body language and sometimes use no body language at all.
So I don't expect them to know what they are talking about, and that's another reason why I don't take the lack of empathy thing seriously.
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