Is marrying certain groups frowned upon in your family?

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You can't choose your family but you can choose how you conduct yourself

My faith is more important to me than a relationship.I have met women who was really tempting to me but i decided not to pursue it further because of my faith.

If you have a Christian faith & live in Texas, your probably more likely to meet women who share your faith than women who don't but you would probably have a much harder time there if you have a different kinda faith. I'm from Louisiana but both my exes lived in Texas. Part of the reason my 2nd girlfriend broke up with me is cuz her parents were hard-core Christians & they kinda wanted our relationship on their terms which were very difficult for us to meet. She was in college & living in her own apartment but her parents didn't want us to be unsupervised together. That meant me having to stay over at their house when I went visit. The stress of long distance was very difficult for us(especially me) & having to accommodate her parents made things more challenging. She didn't consider herself a Christian, she was more of an atheist but she had to pretend for her parents cuz they were helping her out with college & woulda cut her off for going against em. My family is Catholic but not very practicing. I went to a Catholic high-school but I went there more because I had problems in public school than because of my parents wanting me to be religious. I consider myself to be a Secular Humanist so my ex told her parents that I was Catholic If I woulda had the income to afford my own place instead of living with my parents & woulda also been able to cover her college stuff, I woulda been willing to get my own place around there & she probably woulda been willing to go against her parents but that wasn't really possible. There were other major reasons why we had problems & why she broke up with me but we may of lasted otherwise though.

As for as I'm aware nobody in my extended family(grandparents, aunts/uncles, cousins, & cousins kids) has ever been involved with someone who was not white or was not Catholic. Some of em might would have a problem with an immediate family member being involved with somebody who wasn't but I don't think they would care much about an extended family member like me being involved with somebody who wasn't. My current girlfriend is a Panthiest but it doesn't really matter to me what religion or faith she is as long as it's not being forced or pushed on me & I try not to push Secular Humanism on her or anyone. It was majorly difficult for me to get any girlfriend & I was single for 8 years straight between my 1st & 2nd girlfriend despite my best efforts to find someone so I didn't wanna limit myself to other Secular Humanists.

There is more to love in heaven and Earth, Cyberdad, than are dreamt of in your philosophy.

I choose not to be a racist but I also made errors in the way I conducted myself with regards to my family.

Do enlighten us Fnord

All of us regret how we conduct ourselves with our family, Mine isn't perfect either. It's important to move on though.

well its still really hard because not only do you have to find a church of Christ woman to marry you have to find one that is compatible with your brand of the church of Christ and the church of Christ is on a steep decline so its harder than you would imagine.

Go ask Bigfoot.

Well, culturally / ethnically / racially? Absolutely not. I come from a multiracial family and upbringing, they're pretty chill as far as that goes.

However if I married a man, many in my family would have a problem with that.

Do you want to?

Possibly, I'm not sure if I'm interested in marriage (definitely not at this point in my life). I am attracted to men, I'm bisexual.