Joe90 wrote:
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They're kinda just doing the opposite of what you're prone to at times.
They don't want to feel bad or inferior for having ASD so they invent reasons for how it makes them actually better than other people.
I feel bad, inferior and insecure of having ASD but looking at the existing similarities I have to NTs makes me feel a lot better. Trying to tell myself that I am a normal human being makes me feel better too. Unfortunately most of the people on WP will doubt this.
I have a perspective that may be controversial, which is that you *ARE* normal. Everyone here is. Not "normal" in the conventional way, as we discuss NT's vs ND people, but that being neurodiverse IS normal. Almost everyone has something weird or strange or wonky about their neurological wiring, even people who are so-called NT, the difference is to what degree, what flavor of neurodiversity, etc.
I used to want to be "normal," long long ago. It took me awhile to realize that there isn't really any such thing as being normal, and that being weird and strange and unique was something I could be proud of, because it made me *ME*.
Sadly, I am one of a very small minority of people who think this way, so there are large swathes of people who do not want to be weird or strange or unique. They want to be uniform and consolidated, homogenous and similar. They want to be this mythological normal.
I am not bashing you for having the desire to be "normal" Joe90. I am criticizing people of the NT mentality who think that being normal is the right thing to be, instead of just you.
So to me, I think it is normal to be unique, weird, strange. I think it is abnormal to think that normalcy is "normal." The myth persists (or my view of it being a myth anyway), but that is the state of things. I have to function in this world where people set rules on social norms that are, in my opinion, pretty damned crappy. You should not be barred from having a fulfilling life, experiencing things in the manner you want to, just because of a divergent neurological process.
but that's my POV. That does put me on the opposite side of things: I am more than willing to embrace an ASD diagnosis, if I get it at some unknown date in the future. Sadly, I also have the benefit of having lived as an NT until now...which makes it easy for me to say all this and sound somewhat hypocritical about it.
For that I am sorry. Again, I think the world should be different than it is. I am a bit frustrated and confounded that it isn't this way, TBH...something I have had to contend with my entire life.