when I read Alis Rowe's meme "before I knew about aspergers syndrome it never occurred to me that I was having challenges that other people just did not have" it struck right at my heart. I knew she was right and it convinced me that it was OK to be different, and to forgive myself for all the hard parts of my life before anybody knew about the autism in me and in my family. What a relief. I never knew, never suspected, and spent my life in self blame and sorrow, fear and feeling helpless to help myself.