I am extremely aromantic

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I had an epiphany: I am extremely aromantic.

I do feel attraction toward (in my case) the opposite sex, at times, but I never reach a level of mental care to fall in love with one of them, I barely would care.

Even when I got cheated once, I was hurt because I felt tricked, but not because I loved her; one of her justifications that she never felt I loved her (or loved anyone romantically for that matter).

I’m a romantic…..but I haven’t “fallen in love” too many times.

With the vast majority of my sexual partners, I felt varying degrees of regard, caring, and admiration….but only “loved” a couple of them.

I read that as "I am extremely Aromatic"

"I believe some day we'll live in a world without love" - David Byrne. Aspie.

you're lucky. I wish I could be too, but instead I'm stuck with experiencing it vicariously through Disney fairytales and the like and fantasizing about what could be and could have been if I wasn't so stunted socially and in my ability to connect to people emotionally.

There seems to be a bit of confusion on various sites about the term aromantic. Some people use the term to mean similar stuff as Boo as in not desiring a romantic relationship. However others use the term aromantic to mean someone who does not like romantic gestures like someone who doesn't like date nights, doesn't like buying or receiving flowers, doesn't like going to romantic movies, doesn't like scavenger hunts with their partner, & doesn't like making out in public. Basically aromantic can mean someone who likes being in a romantic relationship but hates all the romantic fluff that's in chick-flicks & Disney fairy-tales. I majorly LOVE the 3 romantic partners I had & being in a serious relationship but I don't like performing romantic gestures outside of being very physically & verbally affectionate with my partner minus the kissing stuff.

I think of "aromantic" as just that-----not desiring romance at all. Not desiring a physically-intimate relationship with a person.

I think that most British men would relate to feel aromantic. It's not in our culture to display affection openly.

My friend was saying the way her husband shows affection is to play rough housing style with the children. But he's not huggy.

Italians on the other hand may be a bit more demonstrative. That's more their culture. I remember a friend telling me that their Italian friend thought men over here were shockingly bad at displays of affection. Buy your wife some flowers at least, he said to him shaking his head.