Fnord wrote:
nick007 wrote:
I loved it as a kid ...
Do you remember the first time the adults invited you to sit at the "Big People's Table"?Things were divided between a table for the parents(my parents, my aunts & uncles, & my grandparents) & us
kids sat at our own table even after some of us
kids became teens & adults. Things changed when my cousins got in serious relationships & had kids of their own. I guess in a way the so-called
"kids table" was more about our mental stage of life like not being married & not having kids instead of us physically being teens or adults.
TenMinutes wrote:
No. Hate it. Semi annual reminder of how socially useless I am. Nobody even wonders if I have plans. Everyone around me asks each other. Even in my presence. Me? Nobody is even curious. Good thing I'm not working this year. At least I didn't have to hear everyone discussing f-ing thanksgiving.
I did nothing and talked to bobody, if you're curious. Sent a couple texts. None were answered.
Happy Thanksgiving!
That's kinda how it's always been at my family gatherings. I NEVER had a close relationship or felt very comfortable with anyone in my family including my parents. I was not the black sheep of the family, I was the invisible one or the camelion one that just kinda blended in to the background. In some ways I can be & feel more like myself & more social with my girlfriend's family than my own. LOTS of various mental disorders & other disabilities run in their family. Whereas I've always been the only disabled one in my family unless I count my grandparents after they were officially old enough to be considered seniors & full retirement age. I know I do talk bad about my parents sometimes on here(or a lot of times), especially my mom but I think this was a major reason we had problems & did not get along. They can not relate to being disabled & my mom has always been a very strong independent type.
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