I don't care for "Love on the Spectrum"

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Hi:
Am I the only one who doesn't like the show "Love on the Spectrum?" While it has some good qualities, those dates didn't work because those dates were blind. As someone who went on two blind dates during senior year of highschool, those circumstances never work. I even kissed one of the blind dates and felt sick afterwards.

I haven't seen it, but blind dates seem anathema to someone on the spectrum.

When I went on my blind dates in hs, I just dove in headfirst because I wanted a boyfriend really bad.

With my first blind date it went pretty well until the kissing part. I thought I would enjoy kissing him but it did not feel right.

With the second blind date, we talked on the phone for a few weeks before meeting in person. He lied about his age. He said he was 17 but he was 15. I also was not attracted to him.

I just finished "Love on the Spectrum." I found it to be underwhelming. The bulk of the participants don't have a university education and the producers of the show seem to be incapable of accepting that people on the Spectrum often want to date people who aren't on the Spectrum or don't have a disability.

I got set up on a blind date with an autistic girl once and it was a DISASTER. We had nothing in common; she was your typical young college-aged party girl who liked to do drugs, get wasted every night, and hookup with chads at a bar while I was the shy awkward introvert who doesn't do drugs, has never been drunk in my life, and is a virgin as well. Long story short, we talked for a total of one month and wound up on bad terms with both of us blocking each other.

I still think blind dates can work. But if you do get set up on a blind date, just make sure your friend is trying to match you with someone they think you'd actually be compatible with, otherwise it could result in a bad experience similar to what happened to me.

Both of these blind dates were set up by a childhood friend who really wasn't a friend at all. When she became a teenager, she never had time to connect with me. Rather, she set me up with a few two different guys based on the fact that they had disabilities and has poor social skills because she felt that about me. However, she didn't think about what they and I had in common.

1. The blind date who I kissed, for example, was interested into angry alternative music by bands like Korn. Back then, I liked rap and pop music. I didn't get into alternative until 4 years later.

2. I don't even think I had anything in common with the other guy who lied about his age.

Blind dates can work if the pair have something in common. The big issue remains that too many people are stuck in the belief that just having Autism in common is enough. I understand that "Love on the Spectrum" is just a television show, but unfortunately we remain a tiny minority of the population as a whole. For millions if not billions, movies and shows like that are their only exposure to a person on the Spectrum. Shows like this reinforce the false notions that ALL people with Autism are children in adult bodies, that we are generally poorly educated, and that we always do best when we stay with "our own kind."

I am often asked if I would date a woman on the Spectrum. My answer is of course, "yes"......provided that Autism is not what defines the relationship. That Autism is where our similarities begin and end. I am ALWAYS appalled when I hear people on the Spectrum define Autism or people who are LGBTQ define their sexual orientation as "the only thing they have." As if they have no interests or independent thoughts.

The reason these are blind dates is because the participants need introductions otherwise they will remain dateless, The whole purpose of the date is to get to know the other person so no it's big deal.

The only person from season one who I was a little surprised participated was Chloe who seemed quite confident and presentable enough to attract any male or female partner.

@OP you started another thread about this a while back

https://wrongplanet.net/forums/viewtopic.php?t=400903

Feel free to read what I wrote there is I still hold the same opinions.