SendInTheClowns wrote:
I suspect that many aspies are targeted by narcisstic predators. Narcissists groom victims by telling them what they want to hear, especially people who have experienced long term invalidation (which is most AS people, perhaps all). These predators are extra good at manipulation, and AS people can tend to not suspect hidden agendas and red flags until the damage is done.
He told me what I wanted to hear a few times.
1. He flirted with for a whole month one time. Then the next time we go together he ignored me and flirted with another friend of mine. He also made it seem like he was choosing her over me before telling both of us that he didn’t have any romantic feelings.
2. He made it sound like he was interested in me romantically some years later. He would do things like have all the courage to talk to me at a convention. Of course I bought it.
A. I texted him and wished him happy birthday. Not long after, I heard from his roommate that he changed his phone number
B. The next time I saw him, he gaslit me