Hello,
When I was in school I got a lot of name calling and physical abuse. There was one name in particular that they called me right before I got hit. My mum and I had an argument and she asked me what names I was called at school. She said, "don't you trust me?". I did not want to say no, which is how I felt knowing that she is manipulative. She was hysterical at this point, crying and everything demanding to know what the names were. I told her the one name. She immediately stopped crying and everything and went back to what she was doing. Then she started using that name to talk to the dog as though he was stupid. Using it in the same manner. It really triggered a response in me. I broke down after struggling with this and asked her why she was using it. She immediately went into flight or fight mode. She could tell I was not happy. She stopped after that without giving any kind of reason. She has however started again with something very similar, used in the same way to call the dog stupid. It is not about the name, I want to make this clear. It is about the fact that people are taking it and making more of it than is needed. After telling my mum, that should have been it, no more mention. But she told my sister and her husband. He used it and made nasty comments about me. He is usually nasty anyway, I also believe he poisoned my food on a few occasions.
How can I approach my mum about this. I think that she has narcissistic personality disorder. She has problems, her mum bullied her a lot when she was a kid. She also got bullying while at school. She orders me about and disregards my opinion on things. I want to move out but I am struggling with that. I feel that I can not look after myself.
How could I stop her from making this comment without her suspicious?
Thanks
Simon
16 Jun 2022, 12:49 pm
