My mother having a low opinion of men!

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06 Sep 2022, 3:38 pm

I have been on holiday recently down the south coast of England with my parents.

My mother always makes comments on how fabulous the ladies look down where we are but never comments on the men. I asked my mother today why she never comments on guys looks and she said to me “I not going to make a comment on how some bloke looks”. Bloke is a British phrase for ‘man’.

I don’t understand I mean do a lot of women not find men attractive or something? And yes I realise my mom who is allegedly a straight woman does not account for every woman in the world lol.



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06 Sep 2022, 3:41 pm

I think many women find men attractive.

Many women, though, don't find the behavior of some men attractive.



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06 Sep 2022, 3:43 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
I think many women find men attractive.

Many women, though, don't find the behavior of some men attractive.



Makes me question my mothers sexual orientation :?


That said my mother does find guys like Brad Pitt, Leonardo DiCaprio, singer Sting, George Clooney and Robin Thick very attractive. But not many men look like those guys in everyday life.



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06 Sep 2022, 3:46 pm

She sounds like a normal, straight women, actually.

My mother is rather similar, actually. She's a bit weary of men, and hasn't dated one in years. She likes movie stars, though. She would never even deign to have a crush on a woman.



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06 Sep 2022, 3:47 pm

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She sounds like a normal, straight women, actually.

Now....if she started talking about how she has a crush on a woman-----then, I would wonder.




Well wouldn’t a straight woman find most men attractive?



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06 Sep 2022, 3:49 pm

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She sounds like a normal, straight women, actually.

My mother is rather similar, actually. She's a bit weary of men, and hasn't dated one in years. She likes movie stars, though. She would never even deign to have a crush on a woman.



What behaviours do you think women find unattractive in men?



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06 Sep 2022, 3:49 pm

My mother doesn't find most men attractive----but she still has crushes on men.

I've actually met many women whose attraction for men has faded owing to stuff that men have done to them.



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06 Sep 2022, 3:51 pm

Jamesy wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
She sounds like a normal, straight women, actually.

Now....if she started talking about how she has a crush on a woman-----then, I would wonder.




Well wouldn’t a straight woman find most men attractive?


Nope.

Do men find most women attractive? No.

We all have preferences.



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06 Sep 2022, 3:53 pm

Jamesy wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
She sounds like a normal, straight women, actually.

My mother is rather similar, actually. She's a bit weary of men, and hasn't dated one in years. She likes movie stars, though. She would never even deign to have a crush on a woman.



What behaviours do you think women find unattractive in men?


Probably, off the top of my head:

Getting into fights in bars for stupid reasons.

Getting drunk, and abusing women.

Constantly cursing

Expecting a woman to be neat and clean, while not being neat and clean themselves.

Only caring about their own sexual needs; when he's "satisfied," he stops trying to satisfy the woman.

Making a woman pregnant, and leaving her to raise the kid.



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06 Sep 2022, 3:54 pm

amykitten wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
She sounds like a normal, straight women, actually.

Now....if she started talking about how she has a crush on a woman-----then, I would wonder.




Well wouldn’t a straight woman find most men attractive?


Nope.

Do men find most women attractive? No.

We all have preferences.




Well it’s rare when i am out in public for my mom to ever say anything complimentary about a man’s appearance so…… :scratch:


My mother has been married to my father since 1985 but these days she never cuddles or compliments my dad.



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06 Sep 2022, 3:54 pm

I happen to find many women attractive----I certainly wouldn't actually go to bed with many of them, though, even if I wasn't married.

I notice, on the train, that I find many, many sorts of women attractive for many, many reasons.



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06 Sep 2022, 3:55 pm

Has she been treated badly by men?

If your mother hasn't talked about, say, wanting to schmooze with Nigella Lawson, then I doubt she's gay.

(I rather like the thought myself :heart: )



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06 Sep 2022, 3:56 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
Has she been treated badly by men?



My dad has never been physically violent with my mother but he does insult her quite often.



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06 Sep 2022, 3:58 pm

So you see....she hasn't had the best life with your dad. That might make her not like men too much.

It has virtually zero to do with sexual orientation. Men not treating women well doesn't make them gay.



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06 Sep 2022, 4:00 pm

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So you see....she hasn't had the best life with your dad. That might make her not like men too much.



One of my female friends at the bar who is 47 tells told me how she was beaten up by her 2 sons. She tells me as well how she dislikes men and takes out her frustrations on me in particular for some reason :?



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06 Sep 2022, 4:05 pm

Yep....some women do take out their frustrations with men on other men.

By the same token, some men take out their frustrations with women on other women.